Is it normal to not want to work?

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I was always a stay at home Mom, which I enjoyed very much. I babysat occasionally and sold things on eBay for some extra cash. I hated both though. I always thought that once my kid was grown and out of the house I'd figure out what I wanted to do. But so far I haven't. It's been almost a year and still I don't care to do anything. I am quite content cooking, cleaning, doing the wash - basically caring for the house. I have a few hobbies and a couple of good friends I see once a week. But my husband is upset over me not working as he thinks we should split bills, etc.

I totally understand it because it is fair and I know that, on the other hand the pressure of him constantly nagging me to get a job is making me very angry. I am not a materialistic person and don't really want many things, I ask for almost nothing, plus he earns more than enough to take care of both of us.

Nearly every time I have worked in the past I have had terrible panic attacks and I feel so anxious I quit after a few weeks. I literally get dizzy, can't breathe and feel like I'm going to pass out or have a heart attack. Also if I can even make it through an 8 hour day it feels too long, like I am being smothered and controlled. After working a 40 hour week I am so drained I feel like I could sleep for a week. My mind races, I can't think straight and I have problems sleeping. I do not have a clue how people keep jobs because I cannot. The longest job I've ever had was not quite a year and I quit because the depression and panic attacks were so bad.

Basically I hate working so much I would rather live in a tent in the woods, which I have actually done when I was younger.

Have I just not found my true passion? Why can't I stand to work? Why do I get so anxious?

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Based on 67 votes (53 yes)
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  • Girlsrule
    13 years ago

    Jobs are Really good they get you money so you can buy a new house start with a part time job it will be easy than getting a full time now I have a good job a house a husband 2 dogs 1 kid and a cat

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  • almostunreadable
    13 years ago

    Your husband sucks.

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  • eternalsmoke31
    12 years ago

    Lazy Woman....

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    if you are being the "housewife" and doing all the cleaning and cooking then i dont understand what his problem is. do you spend a lot of his money because i would understand then if he wanted you to get a job because i would certainly get peeved if my partner was spending all of my money and me not being able to spoil myself too.
    maybe instead of looking for a full time job, find something part time to get you back into work, that way you will be making your own money and your husband wont get so shirty.
    he really should understand your fear of working so he should give you time to adjust but if working makes you so uncomfortable, then maybe you should talk to a professional about getting over this fear.
    personally i love working, i love having my own income and being able to do what i like with it. when i wasnt working, i hated having to ask my husband for money all the time and i got so very bored at home and that was only for 6 months while i was between jobs.
    start part time then go from there.

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  • Thatguy777
    12 years ago

    Man, fuck work. I wish that robots worked all of the businesses. Then the government would give everybody free houses, and nobody would ever have to so shit. Just enjoy life. Seriously having to spend all of your life doing shit that you don't want to do bums me out.

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  • Christi
    12 years ago

    Maybe you are good doing something creative like making art or handcraft...You can do it while home and you won't have to interact with other people. Or maybe you have a talent that you haven't explored? Your husband should be more supportive and instead of complaining should help you find something that you really enjoy doing. I understand how you feel, i too find it painful to go to my job.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Thank you. I finally did figure out what the problem was. I had an undiagnosed mental illness. I am now in treatment. And yes, you're right. I needed to explore creative options, and that was part of the problem. A standard 9-5 job does not suit my personality style. He IS being incredibly supportive now.

      Thanks for being kind. I am sorry that you find it painful to go to your job. That feeling is horrid. I have compassion for you.

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