Is it normal to not want to have retarded children

Why would you choose for your child to be disabled in such a way that it makes life more difficult for the child and everyone else involved in caring for the child?

Nobody I know would ever want a retarded child, but that's different from having a retarded child and accepting the hand you're dealt, being responsible and caring for that child despite his/her disability. Most people can't help but love their own kids, but if they had a choice between their litter being mentally handicapped or not, they'd choose not. Obviously.

I feel the same way. Don't get me wrong, I'll love my children no matter what, but their lives will be difficult if they're not right mentally.

Most parents want to have a healthy child. There's nothing wrong or shameful about that.

Okay look, I'm not saying that I wouldn't want my children to be healthy. All I'm saying is that I would love my child no matter what.

It's totally normal! What parent could possibly want their child not to be healthy and have a normal life? I work with people who are "retarded" as you put it (which by the way, is a HORRIBLE word especially considering you're so outraged by someone not wanting a child that is that way!) and some of them are completely amazing and I'd be proud to call them my children, but if I had a magic wand and I could make it that they were "normal" and could have "normal" lives, (I put "normal" in inverted commas because what is "normal"?) then I would. I'd love if they could be accepted and loved by everyone in the same way I love them. So if I had a choice, I wouldn't want "special" children. That being said, if I was pregnant and found out I was having a "special" child, I wouldn't get rid of it, I'd love him or her just the same.

Can't blame anyone for wanting healthy children though!

EB x

Of course you dont really wish to get mentally challenged kids it is worse if you talk about something like abortion though...

Let me preface this by saying if i had a challenged kid i wouldnt love him/her any less. That being said, WHO THE FUCK WANTS A RETARDED KID?

I feel the same way, and that is one of many reasons that I would never have children. I've likely been exposed to numerous toxins that could increase the chances of having children with birth defects.

It's normal because think of the money required to keep the kid in the house. Since they can't get a job it's a whole other mouth to feed for however long they live in the house. But if they were to have a retarded child I bet they couldn't help but love it.

Nobody does. Life is shit though so even with our advances in medicine it still happens.

Seriously who the fuck wants their kid to be retarted everyone wants their kid to have th ebest live idiot if you want a retarted kid

I don't really care...I just don't want diabetic children. If Darwin were here, he'd tell me not to reproduce.

Well, neither did your parents, but you can't really blame them for it.

Well, I think the people who don't care are amazing(if there is any). First of all, any syndrome or mental retardation will make my children's life more difficult.

Not only that, but we, the parents, get more work.
And we don't want that, we always want the perfect life, the perfect house, the perfect kids. The perfect family.

It's not always like this. You won't know ´til it happens.

Your "friend"....yeah.

Look, I'm sorry that you had a disabled child. But I'm sure you realize, if only in the back of your mind, why most of us hope that doesn't happen to us.

Oops, I misunderstood the question and clicked the wrong one. Yeah, it's normal to want the best for your kids. There's a BIG difference between wanting to give your kids the best chance you can and actually having something AGAINST ones that are disadvantaged.

So don't judge your friend too harshly. He doesn't sound prejudiced at all. YOU should take a reality check.

i agree with these comments above me!