Is it normal to not want to change appearance for boyfreind ?

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I have dated poeple before and sometimes boys get upset if you are not pretty enough . I remember dating this guy and he kept complaining how ratty and ugly and un cool my cloth was . He kept saying " dont you have anything cute " .I simply said no but most my cloth was hand me down or left over from the rest of my family that didnt fit anyone else and I never had alot of money to buy new cloth. He said I looked ugly and not very girly strangley I auctully did not care about any of this . He ask me to dress nicer and I did try but he siad I still look like a dude . He offered buy me new cloth I didnt really care but I said " whatever " . Long story short this never happened and I never had the chance to take him home to my dad becuase apperently he only wanted to hit it and quit it and tryed rape me in a movie theatre and than said " I think we need to take a break " . I was trying to keep him for atleast a week so I could show my dad and my dad would be proud of me . At this time my dad had been doing nothing but telling me how horrible and ugly I was and that he hated me and all my school freinds left me and everyone in my classes treated me poorly . The school had made a mistake and messed up the classes for the whole school and alot of kids never got the correct classes . I was unlucky enough to have to repeat the entier 10th grade year even thought they siad I had passed and I was suppose to be in 11th grade classes . so I on top of not doing very well at this school wasted even more time being rejected and learning nothing bored out of my mind in classes I was unfortunate to take a second time around and everyone telling me I suck . Anyways is it wierd that a boyfreind would ask you dress nicer and you not really care ?

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Based on 6 votes (4 yes)
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  • disthing
    11 years ago

    Allistalla please at least use paragraphs or something. It's SO difficult to read a large chunk of text like that...

    Also keeping focused on the question you're asking is useful. You diverted into something about everybody at school being nasty and having to retake a year because your school messed up blah blah.

    If you really want people to reply and give advice you have to consider the readers and our attention span :)

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    • Allistalla
      11 years ago

      Im giving reasons why I would want to change my apperence as in given this situation should I change my apperence and is it normal I do not want to becuase everything siad I should so its nescarry .

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    • Allistalla
      11 years ago

      ok.

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  • Ixu
    11 years ago

    I think your dad is the main problem, why are you trying to impress him when he says horrible things to you, you need to stand up for yourself and demand respect from these stupid people in your life.

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  • kerk_
    11 years ago

    You should be yourself. You've got the right attitude. People who call you ugly they probably just want to make out with you. It's all normal, you don't have to care about them.

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  • lateboy1
    11 years ago

    Allistalla how old are you??

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    • Allistalla
      11 years ago

      Why do you care about my age Im a adult so it does not matter .

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      • lateboy1
        11 years ago

        I wasn't trying to be mean I have read a couple of your posts and I enjoy reading your stuff, you seem cool, i was just being curious.

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        • Allistalla
          11 years ago

          Also its nothing personal I just dont give away my age online and I hinted at it a few times already I am only willing to give out so much im not upset just poeple seem to curioues to figure it out but ill tell you I am infact an adult .

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          • lateboy1
            11 years ago

            Ok your mean

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    • Allistalla
      11 years ago

      Old enough . Why do so many people care and this happened a few years ago but I have gotten this from boys sometimes and i am a adult thats all that matters .

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    11 years ago

    Not normal. When they get into a relationship with you and want to change you (even though you were like that when you first started dating) is ridiculous. Dont change who you are for someone else. If they're that insistent, dump em because you can do better. Also, you shouldn't let what your father thinks bother you. From my experiences, most older people insult their kids because their jealous of their kids youth or angry about how their life turned out and they're too old to do anything about it.

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