Is it normal to not want to celebrate 18th birthday?

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My birthday's this coming April 20 and I'm turning 18. Since last year, all of my closest friends are asking me what would I be doing for my 18th birthday. My Dad's also asking me every once in a while what my plans would be and what my mom's planning for it so they could prepare. I told my mom about it she said she wanted a party, then my dad wants a tour to ... i don't know, somewhere. But, personally, I don't want to do anything! I don't even want to party. I just don't want to celebrate it. I feel like there's really nothing to celebrate about. I just want to sleep that day, or watch tv or do homework or laundry, wash the dishes. I just want it to be a normal day. I also don't like the thought of my parents spending so much money for it and then bothering them for colors and cake and venue and such. Also, on April 19, I'll be getting my grades for this term and I'm so sure I have a couple of failed subjects. I was so stupid I didn't pass it online on time and the upload button was gone when I was about to send it so now I'm sure I failed. and I'm always late for my technical writing class and I think my only hope for that passing that subject is to pass my final paper but I think I'm still not going to make it. So, after that day, I'd feel so bad and so will my parents and it's a fresh feeling and then there really will be nothing to celebrate about.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    You sound so much like me. I usually like to just go out to eat somewhere and be done with it. I don't like to throw big parties for my birthdays. Its normal. You're probably just maturing too. And you don't have to worry about the mistakes you made at school. Everybody makes mistakes sometimes. Happy Birthday! ;)

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  • Kie3PO
    12 years ago

    Aww, you do need to get more organised with your studies by the sound of things, that's what is probably bothering you the most. Maybe you don't feel like you deserve to celebrate because you're not on top of your business. But it is definitely normal to not want to celebrate it, I never wanted to make a big deal out of my birthdays either. But Happy Birthday for when it comes :)

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  • Uzzie101
    12 years ago

    I remember having the same problem when I turned 18. I just brought 7 of my closest friends around to my house for a few drinks then went into town.. and they still say it was a great night so..

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    From my point of view you seem like a lucky child to have people who care to celebrate your birthday. Maybe the reason you dont want to celebrate your birthday is because you feel like a failure for what has happened and if so you should tell your parents what happened. Enjoy your birthday. The 18th birthday is valuable. I think it represents "from this day forth I'm considered an adult. Time to enter the adult world." Happy birthday in advance! Dont worry times will get better dont dwell on the past! ^.^

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  • CheyChey
    12 years ago

    I say have a party make it low key even 18 is a big deal & won't you regret it later?! you've got nothing to lose... happy birthday!!!

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  • dillin
    12 years ago

    It's normal not to want your parents to spend tons of money, but it's not normal to not want any sort of celebration. However, it's not your FRIEND'S birthday. Celebrate it however you want.

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    Happy Birthday:)

    I think it's normal. Tell them how you feel. Do it before they get really carried away with the plans, though. Good luck!

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    yeah birthday arnt for everyone, i personally dont get too exicted for mine and its comming up fast. ill be 23. but as for the grades you have to make sure you make an honest effort and the teacher knows it, cause i had a course the i did all the work and extra credit and stayed late often and showed up early, ask question, and i would have failed my a few points but she passed me i think. cause i did the math and i should have had a fail if i got a 100% on my final, but i called her after grades were finalized on break at work and she said the i passed.

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  • tbiM20
    12 years ago

    If you ask the professor, my experience is if you're truly sorry and you do it soon enough, they'll accept your missed assignment, maybe knock 10% off or something.

    Anyways, totally normal. Happy birthday!

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