Is it normal to not want to call my step-mother "mom"

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When I was 12 my dad got remarried. My real mother was never in the picture, I've only met her once and I don't really want to be involved in her life. But my step-mother, who I never really get along with, and my father keep trying for me to call her "mom". In letters they write, presents and in public they call her my mother. Which really bothers me. Is this normal?

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  • [email protected]
    11 years ago | pl

    Try calling her WHORE instead,and explain why.

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    Call her by her first name. Things don't have to be awkward that way.

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    • Felice
      11 years ago

      I do, and yet they still keep pushing it on me. I don't know what to do.

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      • Shackleford96
        11 years ago

        Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't read your story completely or I would have known that...

        I agree with SpaceGhost though, you should have a serious talk with them about it. Just try to explain to them that you don't feel comfortable with it, and you never will. It's nothing personal, but they just need to accept it.

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  • chicken471bologna
    11 years ago

    No one ever call their stepmom "mom"

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    • gloryholeflasher
      8 years ago

      You're mistaken. Many of us do. But it should be the child's option as to how to address the step parent. My feeling was that my parents are the ones who screwed up my life by getting divorced and I have a right to deal with that situation the best way I can. In my case I had two wonderful stepparents and I addressed them as Mom and Dad. My biological parents obviously weren't pleased with that but they didn't complain. My Dad was smart enough to realize if I was calling his new wife "mom" then it was only fair to call my Mother's new husband "dad". If my step parents weren't good loving people who treated me right, even though I was a teen when they entered my life, I wouldn't have showed them that respect and I would have called them by name. You have to do what works for YOU. Just treat your step mom with respect and address her the way you feel comfortable with. Respect goes both ways. It's not right for them to pressure you to call her Mom.

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    SHE'S NOT YOUR MOMMY.

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  • tori
    11 years ago

    I wish they wouldn't do that to you. The word "mom" has real meaning behind it. Does she act like a mom? Is she part of the decision making about you? Does she love you?
    Any way, a step-mother has to earn the name "Mom". It's all about feelings on both sides. Don't cave in.
    Talk to them if you can. Maybe some day she will feel like a mom and you can call her that then.

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  • lordwirt
    11 years ago

    all i can really say is that ive never met my biological father but i talked to him for like 2 seconds on the phone when i was 14 and then i hung up on him once i found out it was him because fuck him he wanted me to be an abortion. But my mom got married to my sisters father when i was like 1 or 2 and i always called him dad till i was 8 and found out he was not my biological father since i realized i had a differnt last name then himand the rest of my family but ive still called him dad since then so for the last 20 years he has been my dad since he is the one who has cared for me.

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  • Felice
    11 years ago

    Thank you guys so much. I don't know if it will get better, but it's nice to know that I'm not mean if I don't feel it's right to call her by her first name. You're complete strangers and you have all helped me so much. But I don't think I'll try the whore comment :) Thanks for your support.

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