Is it normal to not want to be happy?

I'm not an emotional person. Not the usual not showing emotion, I just don't feel much. My train of thought with not working directly towards my own happiness is that it doesn't have much effect on me. I would much rather give someone else the opportunity to experience and savor the emotions that I would just squander. Some of the more drastic things I've done are not asking girls out on dates or to dances because I know for a fact there is someone who wants to go with her way more than me. I usually let my friends and classmates do better than me on tests even though I'm the one that nudges them through homework problems. Some people think I'm simply throwing away my potential, but from my viewpoint it's as easy as this: Why should I work on my own goals and get less out of the experience when I could be opening doors and clearing paths for other people who would get much more from it than me?

I do occasionally flip on my potential to see that I still am as competent as I expect myself to be just to make sure I'm not actually inept and justifying it with my thoughts above.

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  • Short4Words

    Why do you think you know what life has in store for you? Try being more open to letting life do something for you.

    I would say, perhaps helping others makes you happy, but at the same time, maybe you just have a the wrong definition of happy. Success isn't the be all of happiness, and happiness is never a constant. Happiness lies in moments, and if it's those moments when you help others then maybe you experience happiness more often than you think. I am at a place right now where I mostly live for others but I know I have things to figure out, and to do. Message me back if you think I have a point.

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  • Warrior

    I am in the same boat pal. I feel the same way
    Every time you think your ahead ....wrong

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  • yesnomaybeso

    I think this is so nice but you have to care about yourself too!

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