Is it normal to not want to be gay when you are?

Sounds like you’ve either been brought up to think being gay is wrong or have developed that belief due to religion. Have sex with a few men and that feeling should wear off.

Honestly man this is something you have to figure out on your own. You have both extremes. One party that says gay is immoral and the other party that says gay is ok and christianity is the problem for your confliction. But at the end of the day it doesnt matter who thinks what its all about what you decide.

I could blow sunshine up your ass and say its all gonna be ok and your christian beliefs are BS but it doesnt matter what I think its all about what you think.

You gotta fix this one on your own. No one knows better than you, they just think they do. We really arent that enlightened.

A character from a book doesn't care whose fields you plow

Some feelings are creeping up in me, like not being able to biologically reproduce. But I don't think I could live a hetero life, I don't think it would be as fulfilling as who I'm learning I am.

I'm sure God doesnt care what adult you are doing as long as it's an adult and you are married to them.

God isn’t going to make you straight babe. It’s perfectly normal to not want to be gay. But, no one else gets a choice in their sexuality.

You will never be straight. The end. You have two choices:

1. You can chose to be celibate and continue to go to the church you attend and content yourself with other aspects of your life. Jesus was celibate. Apostle Paul was celibate. Many saints were Catholic clergy and were celibate. DO NOT try to be straight and drag some poor woman into this. It will hurt both of you.

2. You can explore other Christian churches that support homosexuality. Usually these churches have a rainbow on their signs or something like "All are welcome". These churches will marry gays. Find a like-minded gay and get married.

No it’s not normal to not want to be gay . I had my fist sex with a older man he was 50 I was 14 . He had me sucking his cock and turn me out taking my virgin ass the same day ! I was hook and went back for more . I move in with him on my 17 birthday and was his for 3 years . I never been with a women now going on 40 years . I am gay and proud to be gay . Do I wish I was Straight ?? Hell no I love men . I have been ask did I miss out on being with a women. No because I only been with men !! Like the saying goes you don’t miss what you never had ! For me it’s women .. I would miss a mans love and the sex a man would have with a man

That's exactly how I feel. I want sex but I don't want to go to hell.

Your fundamental sexuality is what it is. I view human sexuality as a ball - and depending how you turn the ball you see a 2 dimensional drawing between two possibilities (which is why pan-sexuality and other things exist).

The most commonly discussed chart that applies to the largest % of the population looks like this (on a X & Y axis chart).

Monogamist
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Polygamish
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Polygamist

Where we are on the chart is not a "dot" but a blob shape with lobes in different directions (and people often experiment to figure out their their natural "blob" lobes).

Yes, it's quite normal to struggle with accepting who you are sexually (and that includes many straight people - as some are naturally more promiscuous than others, some are extreme monogamist (sex with another in any situation would cause mental difficulties), others extreme polygamist (must live with multiples or have mental difficulties) - and a lot of people often desire to be something they are not).

The above chart and base descriptions of it and the struggles most people go through were part of 6 months of sex counseling that cost about $10,000 and used up all of my accumulated PTO one year (my wife and I are on different places on that chart - and we didn't know that before we got married). Worth every penny - and really learning about this and about the differences saved our marriage.

It's best to figure out who you are and accept that. You don't have to apologize to anyone.

Myself, i bellieve in God, have a couple brothers that are supposed to be pastors, and some nephews that are gay. You can read the bible all you want, you can say "hail marys" till your voice goes out. My thoughts are first off "God dont make any junk". We are who he created us to be. I struggled for years with me being a crossdresser for years from the religious point. We are who we are, LGB or T. I here comments now and then, and even read them on here also, but if you are so focused on NOT being, then thats going to be your entire thought process until you resolve that in your mind.
Before i got out of the Navy, I was sexually assaulted by a supervisor. For YEARS my mind and thoughts were about how i could have ket that happen, how i was embarrassed by what happened, just on and on multitude of questions, thoughts, i shoulda done this or that. I resolved that in my mind with knowi g that if i would have beat this person to a bloody stump, then i would go to jail, prison, court martial, etc. I didnt know, but, i resolved it to a point that i dont allow that to consume my day to day life. Find yourself a comfortable common ground. Take a certain night of the week and go chase a woman and another night to chase a guy and see where you find yourself in the morning.