Is it normal to not want to be gay?

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I know I'm attracted to the same sex but I don't want to be gay. My parents are accepting and okay with me being gay but I still struggle with accepting this myself. I don't know why. I wish I found the opposite sex more attractive and for a long time I've told people I'm straight and pretended to like boys, now I tell people I'm bisexual because I still don't want to admit it. I just want to have a normal life and I don't want to be gay. Why do I feel this way? Does anyone else feel like this?

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  • OSlol123
    13 years ago | pl

    Dudette.......... your mom and dad are OK with it.... you have it easy.

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    • kinda
      11 years ago

      that's right she is lucky girl if her parents accept that
      ps: she is a girl not a guy she said she was pretended to like boys ... so she is a girl

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      • Dreamcatcher
        11 years ago

        Hi I saw your other message asking about how I'm currently doing. I don't come on here much but I got an email notification about your comment and wanted to let you know. I'm much more accepting of myself now. I started going on dates with girls and I'm more comfortable talking about it openly. I still struggle a little sometimes when confronted with people that are not accepting of homosexuality but I'm working towards one day being able to stand up for myself and beliefs. I did actually have a girlfriend recently but we are no longer dating. We even held hands in public! It was rather exciting. Some people stared and I felt a bit nervous but I decided it was really me and that girl that mattered not the strangers staring at us. Thank you for your comment and concern I appreciate it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Normal, my brother is gay and he wishes he wasn't.

    But he also knows that he can't change who he is and fighting against it is useless.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    yeah its completely normal to not accept your sexuality. You probably feel this way because being straight is more acceptable and you may be scared of people not accepting you for being who you are.Just think that your REALLY lucky because your parents are understanding. Just give it time, when you meet someone special you will be happy your gay :)

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  • hellboy333
    13 years ago

    Okay, I realize being gay is not a choice, but if you don't like being gay then be straight, or bi or whatever. Seriously.

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  • Andurlittledog2
    8 years ago

    That was the story of my youth. I was born in a different era though. So I never came out until my 20s now it's much easier to be accepted and things are getting better.

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  • Shnaz
    10 years ago

    You don't have a choice my friend.

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  • Clickclock
    11 years ago

    Hi there, i'm gay too as well.
    initially, i could not accept myself, I hated the fact that I was different and out of the norm.

    Then I realized that my sexuality makes a part of me, its my identity, its something that defines me. Its just like ye colour or skin colour, Its something that i have to accept.

    it might be hard for you, just give yourself some time to see yourself through.

    afterall, whether or not your sexuality makes a big part of you is totally up to you. You don't have to keep focusing on your sexuality 100% of the time to keep yourself bothered. Just focus on the happier things in life like making your parents happy, enjoying a lovely summer's day or achieving something for yourself.

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  • gabi123
    12 years ago

    because society hates this otherwise u would not mind ur sexuality dont worry be open about it but to your closest friends first

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  • stupidradar
    12 years ago

    Ok, for the idiots who say "oh just don't be gay if you don't want too." 90% of people can't change their sexuality. Saying any different is just ignorant. Listen it's completely normal to not want to be gay, but it's ok. Most homosexuals don't. That's how they were born. The sooner you accept who you are, the sooner you'll stop feeling that way.

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  • Munix2
    13 years ago

    are you struggling with a feeling of oddness at feeling the attraction to your own gender, or are you struggling with the implications being "gay" has towards society?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      The implications mostly, I just want to you know be normal, fit in, have a normal life with no one thinking anything about me. I really wish I could just do that but I like girls a lot. I want to be with a girl but at the same time I don't because it's not acceptable to everyone. There will be stares and talk I don't want that.

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  • trangiieess
    13 years ago

    When you finally meet someone who you want to be with, it won't matter what others think about you. At least you have supportive parents, unlike you my parents don't approve of gays and I feel very scared about what they would say when I tell them im in a relationship with a girl

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  • romer2o
    13 years ago

    im a dude and thats the same way i feel im attracted to boys and girls i crave gay sex but i want to be straight and its very hard to not want to like boys

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  • asura
    13 years ago

    Easier said that done!! Hellboy!! ^^

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