Is it normal to not want to accept the ring?

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My boyfriend says he bought his ex girlfriend a right hand ring because she asked for a ring and he wasn't ready for marriage, but on her Facebook she acts like its a engagement ring when they broke up she was supposed to send the ring back to him..but I've yet to see it in person, I have seen it in a picture she has on Facebook. So therefore I don't know whose lying.
He has been talking about marriage a lot here lately... And today while we were looking at rings just for fun he said he already had one picked out he just needed to get it sized. I'm worried he's going to give me the same ring he gave her but have it sized to fit me. Is it normal that I do NOT want that ring if its the same one?

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Based on 52 votes (42 yes)
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  • Karmasbitch
    10 years ago

    Of course that's normal! who would want a ring that was given to someone's ex? Yeah, normal!

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  • SkullsNRoses
    10 years ago

    I don't really understand the whole Facebook drama you're describing, but it is completley understandable to not want to be given the same ring as his ex-girlfriend. How sure are you that he's planning on using the same ring?
    I think the best thing to do would just be to mention your concern to him, and if he does propose with the second hand ring just tell him that you feel uncomfortable having the same ring as his ex.

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      Also if he proposes with the ex's ring she can always tell him no.

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    This is another example of why Face book turns people into assholes.

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    • Darkoil
      10 years ago

      I don't really see how facebook has turned anyone into an asshole in regards to this post.

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        Hahaha... Remember there are aways two sides to every asshole.

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  • TheProph
    10 years ago

    I'm a guy and I can completely understand why you wouldn't want that ring.

    Definitely normal.

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  • theMonkey
    7 years ago

    Cast it into the fire! Destroy it!!!

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  • mixedsignals
    10 years ago

    Ok to the ones who want to be rude and complete dicks, your comment wasn't necessary, and for the rest of you guys Thanks :) Maybe I should have written the entire story, he has lied to me several times over simple things as in he wasn't even engaged or he had never told any other girl he loved them but according to his family he was engaged they were there. Not like those things really matter any way because it was the past, the fact of him lying is the problem. I've mentioned not wanting the ring, he just says it shouldn't matter what ring it is. I don't know if I should feel bad for not wanting it.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    Alternatively, maybe he is going to sell the ring and use the extra cash to buy you a different one.

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  • fullhouse
    10 years ago

    A ring is a ring. Just ask him if it's the same n end the suspense.

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    Gotta love girls, always making up all kinds of shit in their head to get mad at people for that more than likely isn't even true....NOT
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    Bitches

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    • davesumba
      10 years ago

      I like how so many people thumbed me down. They mad it's true.

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    • myboyfriendsbitch
      10 years ago

      You seem quite bitter and resentful toward women. Did something happen recently?

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      • davesumba
        10 years ago

        Not exactly, but I have to put up with this bullshit with my freaking sister all the time (I've already promised myself I won't put up with that shit with women ever again, and if she wasn't my sister, I would never even speak to her). I'll be hanging out with her and her boyfriend and she'll FLIP the fuck out at him because he "looked at her in a mean way." Even though I was watching him, and he wasn't at all. And then she went to the point of screaming at him to leave her house just because of a way she thinks he looked at her.
        And that kind of bullshit happens all the time with her, and it gets really annoying when she's venting to me, and all I can do is remain silent and pretend I didn't hear it, because the stupidity of women just makes me mad.

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        • myboyfriendsbitch
          10 years ago

          Maybe you should be honest with her and tell her she is being dramatic and overreacting. As long as she feels justified in her actions she will continue to repeat them. She'll probably get POed, but after lashing out at you she might actually think about it.

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          • davesumba
            10 years ago

            Oh believe me, I went against my better judgement and tried that once. She just got even more mad. There is no logical reasoning with those types of girls, and they will never see themselves in the wrong.
            I heard her talking to my mom one time about how she doesn't like coming to me anymore to talk, because she doesn't like my logical minded advice that is too hard for her female mind to comprehend. Like when she's freaking out, because she thinks (for no reason) that her ex bf is going to come break into her house and steal her cats. And I try to tell her that's never going to happen and that she shouldn't worry about it. OH MAN, never tell a woman not to worry about something.

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            • myboyfriendsbitch
              10 years ago

              This sounds more like a personality disorder than a woman thing. I've known a couple of women who take things too far like that, but that is a very small percentage compared to the whole female population. My sister acts similarly and she is bipolar. When I hang out with her I just have to let her freak out on random people for things that only she seems to notice. However, she does listen to me (when she's calm) when I choose a battle and tell her she has acted out of line. Anyhow, rest assured that such behavior only represents a small fraction of women.The rest have other issues, haha.

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