Is it normal to not want sex with people you know?

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I'd like to preface this by saying I've never been in a real relationship before, but I have had people who have feelings for me. I notice a lot of people go around saying "I'd totally hit that" or staring at T&A all the time, thinking about sex, with random people, strangers, or acquaintances. For me I've had crushes on other people, but never thought about sex with them. In a way to think sexually about them would seem to trivialize the way I feel about them, and the idea of having sex with people I like is unappealing. In addition I don't think about sex with acquaintances and would never have sex with a stranger. The thing is, I know I'm not asexual, because I think about sex and even masturbate frequently, and read lots of erotic literature. My best guess is that I'm demisexual, which sounds incredibly stupid to say out loud. Hopefully this is the case, because then when I fall in love completely, I should be able to enjoy sex. In addition to this, I can be attracted to people of any gender identity. Is something wrong with me, or is this normal? Do any of you feel the same way?

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  • thecowboy911
    10 years ago

    Depends on ur age. I was like that when i was like 13 or 14 i was disgusted by sex and i never thought about sex with my crushes ( girls i have feelings for) but when i was like 16 or 17 i started having more sexual feelinhs towards girls.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I'm 17, but I haven't ever really been disgusted by sex. By the time I was 13, I was already interested, just never wanted it with anyone I know. Two things I should probably include in my OP would be that I had severe schizophrenia, and the meds I took while I was young messed up my hormonal balance and delayed puberty. I still have a child's penis, although my testicles have developed to be somewhat normal sized. Another thing is that it might have something to do with my sexuality and gender identity. I personally have never cared for the difference between male and female, always had an androgynous appearance and personally.

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  • SHAKEStheClown
    10 years ago

    It sounds like you have a fear of intimacy.

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    • Wuggums47
      10 years ago

      Hmm, I'm not sure but that could be right. I've never really had a non sexual intimate relationship with anyone but my mom, grandmother and grandfather. Because they are Italians and hungarians we usually greet eachother with a kiss, and that's never bothered me. But on the other hand I've never done more than hugged a non family member. I would like to kiss some of the people I know, or hold them next to me, or cuddle, but I've never really liked the idea of sex with them.

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      • SHAKEStheClown
        10 years ago

        So um...what does demisexual mean?

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        • Wuggums47
          10 years ago

          Demisexual is a relatively new term for someone who cannot be sexually attracted to those they don't love.

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          • SHAKEStheClown
            10 years ago

            Cool, the world would be a much happier place if more people were demisexual.

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