Is it normal to not want children?

Hey there. So, this one might sound childish, but try to bear with me. I was wondering if it is normal not to feel this need for having a child / children. I get the reflex of rolling my eyes whenever I see someone losing their composure because they see a baby. Not to sound cynic or negative, I respect people for their preferences. However, I get this stingy feeling that I am an isolated case for feeling this peculiar way towards having children. I feel people just expect of others to want children by default. Am I the only one to think this way? Is it normal not to want children?

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Based on 122 votes (111 yes)
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  • I dont really see a need to procreate either, especially with 7 billion people on that planet as is...I just dont see the great satisfaction or motivation to do it, when someone gives me the impression they are "living" for their children I cant help but pity them a little since they are unable to live for themselves and cant enjoy life for their own satisfaction. Doesnt make sense to me. I also dont understand why some people go so crazy over a baby. Its just a little baby that has no idea whats going on at all?? Where does the need to pick them up and make silly noises to them come from? I never have the need to do that.

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    • Girlygamer

      Yes this is so true

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    • That's exactly my line of thinking. The sense of satisfaction that emanates for those people just seems like putting the blind eye on the bad sides to me. Thank you for your thoughts on the matter!

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  • FUCK having CHILDREN.I have a hell of a lot better things to do with my money,like buying CIGARETTES and LOTTERY TICKETS,just to name a few.NEVER MIND having to feed or support some little BITCH or BASTARD,that's for damn sure.You're perfectly normal,FUCK what others think.

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    • A thousand times yes, brother. I like your strong stand on this. Thanks for the comment!

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  • It's kind of ironic that this question has risen in the most popular posts today, right beneath "Would you punch a kid in the face?". Oh well, internet, what can you do.

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  • Dot123

    Children suck dick.

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    • NoraBaker

      dot, stop abusing them already!!!

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      • Dot123

        Rough love.

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  • capitalidea2006

    I do not dislike children but I do not want to have any. I love how children can be molded by education and the joy on their faces finding something new in the world. ? I mostly hate the lifestyle of having children. I hate having to stay up late to console a child, except if they are sick. I do not want read the same book over and over at bedtime. I do want buy and have to watch children's movies. I hate high pitched screams and cries. I have hyperacusis and the sound is so painful. I hate to have to shop for school clothes. I hate drippy noses no matter how cute. I hate making disgusting meals to accommodate a childs' tastes. I hate having to plan discipline. I hate having someone watching me all the time.
    Is this too selfish?

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  • Summerlove87

    Yes it is normal. I don't want children and whenever I say that people they generally try to convince me it's so amazing. Children are over rated, expensive, and a life time of responsibility, I don't want that...EVER!

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    • I have to say I'm not too hot to the idea of being plagued with such responsibilities either. You have to admit though, the marketing in their sales pitch isn't as effective as intended when they turn around minutes later because their baby threw up on the floor. :P

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      • Summerlove87

        Haha exactly :)

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  • SEWnanist23

    There is a small candle flicker of paternaty that I'll feel once in a great while but it can't get any stronger than that because of the pathetic genetics I inherited. I don't want to make the same mistake my male cousins on my mothers side of the family did. Mentally disturbed children suffer the most and the scary thing is they don't know why they're suffering. That is why I prefer a bottle of lubrication and rosey palm.

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    • It's not forcibly a reason to "take our own sexuality at hand" per se, but I can't help but feel the social construct around the whole question drives people to separate, sadly. Best of luck to your cousins, and thanks for the comment!

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  • ready2rumble

    You are normal, don't worry :). When I see how difficult things are for our generation I don't want to imagine how hard things will be for future generations. It is a crime to have a child under these circumstances

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    • Isn't there something disheartening about knowing what you'll throw your children into? I usually answer, when asked "Why don't you want children?" with "I don't want to cause more human suffering". It's not a complete thought or anything, but it's not a bad summary, given our perspective. Thanks for the comment.

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  • qwerty098765

    Normal I'd say.
    I would never want children either, I'm just so annoyed whenever I'm around them.

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  • Avant-Garde

    I don't want them either. You're normal.

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    • anti-hero

      ^This plus I don't want marriage either.

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      • Are you a woman? I can totally understand being a woman and wanting to be married, you basically have someone that will take care of you the rest of your life, for the most part.

        As a man I cant understand at all any other man's motivation to get married. Sure if you met the one in a million catch I can understand, but thats so rare today. I dont wana bash marriage in general I just think it benefits women far more then men.

        More single men I know are happier then single women, and more married women are happier then married men.

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        • I don't understand wanting to get married either, even for women. Their reasons for wanting it just seem as petty as their reasons for wanting children.

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          • I can totally understand wanting to be married being a woman, and cant blame them either. Anything technical or project wise that goes wrong with the house automatically becomes the man responsibility to fix, not to mention most women are probably going to boss their husbands around, and for some reason its accepted because its "cute". Brother let me tell you, it aint "cute" I dont envy those guys one bit. I dont understand the desperation some men feel in wanting to get married, I love LOVE the ability to go back to the peace and quiet of my home, without kids running around, making a mess, breaking this or breaking that, and then my wife nagging the shit out of me about it.

            Hey maybe that is selfish, I really dont care. But you people (not you OP) that want kids go ahead and have them. And keep telling yourself its "soooo" rewarding as well. Maybe you will believe it one day.

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            • Haha, that sure sounds like wishful thinking, put like that. I can't say I have a full understanding of the implications of marriage, so I can't agree on that one. I kind of like bossy women! Still no intention of getting married, though! :P

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        • anti-hero

          No pretty sure I am a guy. and I said I DON'T wanna get married...

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          • I didnt mean to imply that you wanted marriage, I read it as you dont want to get married either. I dont know why I posted it implying that you perhaps wanted to be married.

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            • anti-hero

              I could have just taken it the wrong way.

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  • alv1592

    This has been asked a lot on here, and yes it's normal. I personally would like to have kids someday, but parenting isn't for everyone and you have the right to make your own choices.

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  • oliveyou

    I think it's normal. There are enough children in the world anyways.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    This question has been asked on this site so many times that if I did't know better, I'd say it's more abnormal to want children.

    Normal.
    Also, remember, 49% of pregnancies in the United States are unplanned (accidents). But most parents still act happy. I call it, making the best of a shitty situation. If it wasn't so socially acceptable to procreate, 49% of Americans would be social outcasts. True story.

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    • Shackleford96

      Wow, 49%! Damn. I didn't think it was possible, but my opinion of humanity just dropped a little lower...

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      • Saycheese

        Lol I had to laugh at this. But it is true. I always say humans suck because quite few do suck.

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        • Shackleford96

          I am glad you laughed ;)

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    • The morbid thing to remember when faced with statistics like that is that families stricken with poverty are often seen with swarms of children, or at least from my personal experience. As to whether the families act happy or genuinely are, I cannot tell. Thanks for the comment.

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  • Its normal, I'm the complete opposite though (: x

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  • ccjigsaw

    Weird thing for me, I've never really found babies cute.. I feel horrible just saying that!!! But I find kittens and puppies adorable ~w~ But babies are kinda hairless, drooly, and smelly.. If I had my own I suppose it would be different, cute cause they depend on me sorta thing, plus it would be a mixture of both me and my partner. I think it's normal, reading the comments I nearly converted to the no kids side lol But I'm pro having children. I'm a nurturer at heart :P

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  • Justsomejerk

    I didn't want children either but we now have an 11 month girl.
    It's a lot of work and a financial strain but we love her very much and she has really made our relationship better.
    I used to question my relationships and wonder "what if" but now I don't because if I'd made any other choice I wouldn't have her.
    She has driven across Australia with us and comes camping with us and out to restaurants where she makes a mess for the poor staff.

    It's still life just not as we know it.

    I still voted yes.

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  • MommaUsagi

    Normal. I have a child but my husband and I waited for 7 years before trying. I don't understand why people try to force their idea of what defines a family onto society.

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  • Lynxikat

    Normal. I also don't want any kids. I personally don't think I have the patience to take care of a kid for the majority of my life.

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  • NoraBaker

    I love babies!!! Just as much as I adore puppies and kittens!

    You should look up childfree movement or voluntary childlessness. I have done so when I was questioning my own lack of interest in having kids myself. And I absolutely love children!! It's a matter of lifestyle and incompatibility with my choices in life. What's interesting is that from a very early age I expressed my intentions of not having children, so I'm not really sure where it's rooted. But I say it's perfectly normal.

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    • It's this sort of talk that puzzles me, actually! Are your motives outside of their cuteness? Well, far from me to judge you, or anyone for that matter. However, thanks for the comment, I'll make sure to look into those.

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      • NoraBaker

        I'd love to elaborate, but I don't think I understood what exactly was puzzling. Sorry. :/

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        • That would be anything consisting of what there is to love about babies, puppies and kittens. Not to sound misguided, but I believe liking something for how cute and adorable it is doesn't mean it's a good idea to have one. It seems to me many people make that mistake, so if you could enlighten me, it would be greatly appreciated.

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          • Lynxikat

            I feel odd that I'm the second person to comment on this, but I think you're spot on about how just something is cute and adorable doesn't mean you should have one.

            It reminded me of when I was a kid, I wanted a rabbit because they were adorable. So I got one, but Lord, the work that went in to cleaning her cage... I swear, taking care of all of my caged animals I had was more work than taking care of my cat :/

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            • My brother and I once each had a rat. They eventually died, my rat killing his and then dying of a tumor to the belly, but the lesson we got out of it is that even if the little bastards costed about 7 bucks, cleaning the cage was a really big responsibility. I guess at that time I was in a phase of "I'm an adult now" (that would be around 15 years old at that time), so the experience at least had me disillusioned from how easy it was to take care of a living being. I won't go into the Spider-man morale or point out the struggle we all have on growing up and getting responsibilities, but there's effectively that tendency of people forgetting about them.

              I guess I could take your rabbit experience and compare it with not wanting kids! Perhaps those who experience what responsibilities really are first-hand are the ones who are more likely to ackowledge their distate for them.

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          • Shackleford96

            Sorry, but I couldn't help but think of the movie "Grimlins" as a perfect (albeit fictional) example of liking something because it is cute and then having one turns out to be a bad idea.

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            • NoraBaker

              That's an awesome example. Still, I'd rather have a Gremlin than a baby. Go figure.

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            • Quite the comparison if I may. For one, people try to avoid feeding babies at night. The dreaded thing isn't that cute once today's supper is scattered all over the floor now, is it? Although, thankfully, babies unlike gremlins aren't known for pampering with military equipement, or even scientifical experiments.

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          • NoraBaker

            I feel somewhat stupid asking this, but what stand did you understand I take on this?

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            • Well, from the looks of your first post, I was under the impression that you "love babies", "puppies and kittens". Do you mean to tell me there's no correlation with those opinions and the subject at hand? If so, I'm awfully sorry for leading us into a misunderstanding.

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  • Shackleford96

    I've been alone for so long that the idea of having children is just a miniscule thought in the very very back of my mind. In recent years, I've even been contemplating the idea of maybe never having children... I just don't know anymore.

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  • NocturnePonyFan

    Completely normal! Don't let the idiots tell you you're abnormal for not wanting kids. Here is my theory, for all those losers who think people who don't want kids are evil or weird: My theory is that the creation of people like us (childfree) is nature's way of telling us to cut down on the breeding. The world is WAY overpopulated (don't listen to that cunt Michelle Duggar, who says that the entire world population can fit into Florida...she's an idiot). We are straining our resources as it is, so I truly believe that the childfree movement is nature's way of helping to level out the overpopulation. So, I'd say the childfree are in a way, better than the breeders (I apologize for my smugness, but I don't apologize for my feeling on the subject). We are willingly not creating more strains on our economy and resources, and in doing so, helping the environment.

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    • There's a little bit of that as well on my mind. Thus, I feel less resentful about trying adoption than said breeding. There's something about it that feels more like helping the world, whereas adding more children to the human population seems like aggravating things. You don't have to appologize for a thing, my friend. Thanks for the comment.

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  • la_la_la_la

    Hiya,

    I don't. I'm physically disabled so the only thing I could do for my child is teach them about decent music and make up stories for them. I consider both of those the best things my parents ever did for me. If I wasn't disabled and suddenly became that way after already having a child, fair enough, but having one when I know I wouldn't manage seems very silly. I couldn't even look after a cat.

    Pregnancy talk bores me rigid because it's not something that's going to feature in my life, and the idea of breastfeeding makes me feel sick.

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    • It's not strictly the "taking care of" part that bothers me, but it's not a bad thing to have it in the balance. And pregnancy talk bores me as well. Everybody seems so engrossed with it, and act like the woman is having the best time of her life, or that it is soon to come. A social puzzle, if you ask me! Thank you for the comment and stay strong.

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      • la_la_la_la

        Hiya,

        Thanks! If I did have a child they'd grow up and be able to do tons more than me and would more than likely end up resenting me (and I'd probably feel the same)

        Pets don't mind. I asked a lady who looked after me once if she had them and she told me she'd never wanted them and she thought a lot of women had them because they either felt they should or couldn't do anything else. At least a disability gets you out of going down that road!

        That's why I get on better with men; they don't talk about that.

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        • It's always with a heavy heart that I read through hate between parents and child. Not to get too personal, but I myself was unwanted by my parents, and they made sure I knew it! Thankfully I didn't grow to hate them or anything, but it feels like a tragedy to have your own son or daughter, in which you put so much efforts and love, turn against you in a whirlwind of rage. Maybe by lack of confidence, we have that rampant fear that claws our insides, and we convince ourself there's a rational thinking behind it. However, I'm just extrapolating; don't call the asylum on me quite yet! :P

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