Is it normal to not want a serious relationship?

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Okay, so first of all, I'm biologically a girl but recently I've been considering identifying myself as a boy (transgender). I'm still physically attracted to boys, though.

So I was wondering, is it normal to not want a boyfriend that is cheesy or romantic in any way? I don't know how to describe what I want, but the closest thing I can think of is 'Friends with Benefits'. I still like to cuddle, but that's really the closest I come to any stereotypical boyfriend/girlfriend actions.

If you have any thoughts or advice please comment as I am really curious about things like
a)if guys are into that (that's really broad, but ya know...)
b)if having a relationship like this in the future is a likely possibility.

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Based on 29 votes (19 yes)
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  • Faceless
    9 years ago

    where have I heard this before?

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    Yes, it's normal to desire a FWB relationship.

    However, that arrangement is rarely strong enough to last a significant amount of time. One or the other tends to fall for someone else, or things get awkward with one person wanting a more loving, close relationship, something more than just NSA sex.

    So finding a guy that only wants that level of commitment on a long-term basis might be a little challenging. Add to that your gender identification issues (most heterosexual guys might find going out with a girl who identifies as a guy confusing and possibly an issue), you've got your work cut out for you. Best of luck :)

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    • Wimpy
      9 years ago

      thanks :) hopefully I'll be able to find someone that can deal with my strange ways. I don't know why but I seem emotionless when it comes to romance...

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    • Neko14
      9 years ago

      I'm bisexual and I think about the same thing. I think it's okay to experiment, until you find someone you're really committed to.

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  • 420boatdriver
    9 years ago

    shove a carrot up your arse and come back to me

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Normal.

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  • Mekkars
    9 years ago

    You don't want relationship you just want bang bang bang.

    You don't want to meet his mom you just want bang bang bang.

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  • ygrowup
    9 years ago

    Unique and interesting at the same time, everyone should be so blessed. Good luck with your choices. It appears you have much time, so most likely, whatever you see about yourself having a problem, will solve on its own

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  • dickwashington
    9 years ago

    what makes you identify yourself as a boy? i mean a lot of people have relationships like that but you were kind of general about what you want is it just sex your looking for? and who knows you may start the relationship that way and it may change and you get emotionaly attached

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  • Lillyrosee
    9 years ago

    Right now, since you're young and still figuring things out, its totally ok to take things slow. But you should understand that in the future, as people get older, they are going to want a real and substantial relationship. Also, sex is a big part of a relationship too. Don't let anyone pressure you into something you're not ready for/comfortable with, but at the same time, don't be afraid to take things to another level if it feels right. Best of luck.

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    • Wimpy
      9 years ago

      Maybe when I get older I'll want a serious relationship, right now I have no plans on marriage, because divorce is a bitch (as I have seen in many cases involving my mom), but right now I just want to be able to 'date' someone without all the nervousness and awkwardness that comes from romance and serious stuff, I sort of just want to let things go with the flow, but when people say stuff like "your beautiful" or "I love you" I just sort of cringe and want to vomit...but I don't want to seem mean either.

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