Is it normal to not want a relationship in early adulthood?

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I guess I've been one of those girls who always have a boyfriend, but after the messy ending to my last relationship (lasted about a year)in January I can't find it in me to commit. I can like a guy, but the thought of a relationship is terrifying. At 19, do you think it's normal to feel sick to your stomach by the thought of being in a committed relationship? Thanks for answering.

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Based on 25 votes (19 yes)
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  • mutherzmilk
    11 years ago

    Your just a baby. dont worry about that now. The guys your dating are too young anyways. If you want a relationship date an older guy. Were better at allot of things anyways. But if your not into older guys yet, just have casual encounters with the guys your age, until your shit is in order. Ie Money car,place to live, etc. then look for someone. Its way to rare to find anyone at that age with their shit together, and allot dont ever get their shitt together. Just approach it casually and see where it goes.Its soo much work dating, meeting their family, hoping they like you blah blah blah.

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  • blaster
    11 years ago

    Yeah take some time out , be you and do what you wanna do for a yr or two , find your head again and just have fun. Forget relationships for awhile I reckon, you got plenty of time.
    I think stuff like this's is just as simple as a sprain, break or any other injury. People just need to relax for awhile and let things heal, stop being so pushy and hard on themselves .

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  • X_x52-_-Scarsx_X
    11 years ago

    Lol, @ the comments. Anyways I know what u mean. Ive been through it before and its good not to have that. It means u know that if u do it u will hurt that person Ur hearts just telling u that ur not ready.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    It sounds like your last relationship has taught you something (although not necessarily something good) about how relationships can be. If you're not ready for the thought of another committed relationship, then you're not ready, and there's nothing wrong with that.

    Eventually, I hope, you'll go from avoiding all relationships to just avoiding bad ones. :)

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  • jucedaguy
    11 years ago

    Guys get fucked over too... It sucks. Why some people only happy when they feel superior to their partner is beyond me. My aim in a relationship is for a) friendship. B) equality in everything. C) and bring happiness to your partner.

    Sadly my partner is abusive, controlling, hateful and a general asshat all round. I have left her in the past. But that only made her do it to the kids. I just ignore her now and put everything I have into the children.... I feel for you mate, your just lucky that there aren't children involved too :(

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