Is it normal to not to know who the hell am i?

I simply don't know myself. If people ask me to describe myself, I repeat what everybody else says about me although I know that they say do not really apply to me. For example, I've been described as being kind by almost everybody that knows me.

However, I don't feel that I'm as kind as people think. Yes, I try to help my family and my friends and even those who I don't know very well, but I really feel bothered when I do so! like I'm fully aware that I'm doing an extra work or that I'm giving up something for them, and I keep regretting that I offered my help! That clearly doesn't make me a kind person; a hypocrite? Maybe!

I tried to get to know myself better, like getting to know what makes me feel sad or happy, but to my surprise, nothing can affect my emotions! This scares the hell out of me! Who on earth am I? Should I believe what everyone says about me? Moreover, is it normal that I have no idea about who I really am?

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  • Short4Words

    It's pretty normal. It's an age old question. I think people delude themselves into thinking they know who they are, but the usually use their interests and beliefs to describe them, but it never really gives a defined answer for who you are as in the core of your being. And do you know what I realized? No one actually knows. We identify are ourselves with things, we label ourselves but it never does us justice, everyday we even try to play into an ideal character of ourselves, who people see, or who we want people to see, but it's an act. The truth is that we are like clay. We are constantly changing. Day to day, we strive to change, and the world effortlessly changes us. This might scare you even more, but be calm, because you don't need to ask this question anymore. What would you do even if you found out? If you could that is. Would you then be this person? or would it feel like a lie. If anything, the life before you should give you some idea of who you are. You are obviously principled, because even though every fibre in your body does not wish to help people, you do, you are modest, because you seem to overlook your good nature. You are thoughtful and that goes without saying.

    However, it does feel nice to belong, so try to find people with similiar interests. Like for me, I like movies and a lot of alternative music, stories both fictional and non-fictional facinate me, I find animals and nature both wonderous and beautiful, as well as human beings. I am God-loving. I like to help people but I also like to veg.

    I think like me you have thought about this to the point of pure frustration and it has stopped you from actually living. You want an identity? You're a human being, just as confused as the rest of us. That is almost always a constant.

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    • Energy

      Perfect way to put it!

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    • Wow I'm the one who's short for words now!
      You have no idea how much your words comforted me! Thank you so much <3

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      • Short4Words

        I'm glad I could help :)

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    • Hippie

      Excellent wordsmanship.

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  • Completely normal- doesn't help that we constantly change though life and it sounds like you got a "strong blanket" over you so you don't let much in or out.

    Identity wise: Create yourself. You must a name, and find out when & where you were born, so that's a start. Where you live, that's part of you. Then things that you do that represent you - hobbies, work, sports you enjoy doing (or watching). So next time you ask yourself who you are say you name, where you were born, where you live, what you do for a living and that you are a dedicated football match spectator (or something along those lines!) Could always try doing this in the mirror till you feel more certain about who you are.

    Feelings: You may just need to get in touch with your hidden emotional side. Just think about how you feel when you come across every day things, for example find something you really like the taste of and remember that feeling of how good its tastes whilst you're eating it. Helps to get out and enjoy yourself and experience good and bad experiences to understand your range of emotions. (I never used to cry whilst watching films, but then things happened in my life and now I cry easily because I've lived - tis a good thing) Good lucks!

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  • CptBallbag

    Technically speaking, you are a collection of memories and neurons firing in your brain. Short4Words really explained the rest better than I ever could.

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  • Ldizzy1234

    I usually have a hard time describing myself as well. I think I'm still figuring myself out. I think your experiences will help you understand yourself better. I feel like I have a lot in life I still haven't experienced yet. Once I do, hopefully I'll know myself by then.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch

    Well... At least you know what makes you frustrated.

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