Is it normal to not tell your other every single thing about you?

Is it normal to not your other every single thing about you? I mean like I was talking to my Ex-Girlfriend the other day and she got all mad at me about telling her something that she didn't know when we were dating. I don't like letting out my entire history. She says she told me everything about her and even now she's learning things about me she never knew. I dont feel like I need to tell her, so I never did. Is this wrong? is it normal? Is it common for guys to keep more seacrets then girls?

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78% Normal
Based on 37 votes (29 yes)
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Comments ( 9 )
  • mumbum

    Who says we have to tell everything about ourselves in a relationship! Full self disclosure is for dumb people! Your ex gf must have been dumb.

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  • TheBeastlyBurrito

    everybody deserves their right to privacy so yes it is completely normal

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  • Andyen

    Thanks all. clears my mind at least a little :D

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    I think you should consider the following idea:

    It's from The Outlander by Diana Gabaladon, spoken by Jamie to his wife Claire:

    "There are things that I canna tell you, at least not yet. And I'll ask nothing of ye that ye canna give me. But what I would ask of ye---when you do tell me something, let it be the truth. And I'll promise ye the same. We have nothing now between us, save---respect, perhaps. And I think that respect has maybe room for secrets, but not for lies. Do ye agree?"

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  • CountryRoads

    I don't think just because you get into a relationship means you are required to give up all personal information. I wouldn't tell my partner the intimate details of my sexual past...why is that required? It depends on what the secrets are, I guess.

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  • jensapa

    I think u should be open an honest with your partner or u risk hurting them when they do find out.

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  • TyLee

    No I think you are being a jerk sorry

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  • Sh33pzilla

    To answer the specific question at the end "Is it common for guys to keep more secrets than girls?" no. Both keep secrets. It is normal to keep secrets, but as georgienne pointed out it is not desirable.

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  • georgienne

    Depends what it is, this doesn't work as a vague question.
    In my mind, as a partner in a relationship you're prepared to answer-all, not to sit down and explain every tiny detail if yourself, but when something's asked you answer it. This uncovers distrust and miscommunication, so I like it.

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