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I am 15 female who's masturbated for 2 years but have never orgasmed. I feel like I get so close but then I can't take the sensations and have to stop. I feel like its hurting me mentally that I can't. Please help. Thanks
I'm female too, and I feel the same thing about getting close and having to stop. But don't let it stress you out! Masturbation is supposed to be de-stressing and fun. Do it because it feels good, don't feel like you have to orgasm.
I agree. Also the more you think about it and focus the less enjoyful and the more stressfull it will be. You shouldnt try too hard. Take a few weeks off and then one night when you're really feeling it (or if you have a crazy good fantasy) slowly start caressing yourself. Dont push or touch too hard. Think of soft handd gliding over your skin. Once your feeling really nice then proceed to something more until you feel finished/tired. Just dont hurt yourself or be too rough. It may feel desirable at first but afterwords isn't so pleasant 😌🤐
Many women have problems reaching orgasm, so you're not weird.
When you say you "can't take the sensations and have to stop", that sounds like you're just refusing to push on through. Why do you feel that you "have to stop"?
Some women at first confuse the sensations of an imminent orgasm with an urgent need to pee, and that kills the mood. If that's what you're experiencing, make sure you empty your bladder completely before you start, get a big towel so you're not worried about accidents, and promise yourself that you'll just ignore the feeling when it arises.
If it becomes physically painful, then maybe you need to modify your technique to use less friction, or back off a little and take things more slowly?
Women use many different techniques to masturbate, but they're all some combination of pressure and motion over time. Maybe you just haven't found the one which is exactly the right combination of enough pressure and motion for just long enough, but not too much.
It's normal for the edge of orgasm to feel like a weird combination of discomfort and pleasure. The sensations build up until they're unbearable, and then you suddenly hit the edge, and there's a huge release. If you're stopping yourself at some point on that climb, you'll never get to the edge of the cliff and leap off.
Really, what it sounds like is that you're just not giving yourself permission to let go and take it all the way. Your most important sexual organ is between your ears. If you get obsessed with how you can't reach orgasm and start to believe you never will, this will make having an orgasm even less likely.
If you're an anatomically normal young woman, you have all the equipment you need to have an orgasm. You just haven't got yourself in the right mindset and used the right techniques to provide the physical stimulation you need.
There are websites dedicated to masturbation where other young women have posted their problems and how they overcame them. It really is worth your time working this out now. If a woman knows what she needs to orgasm, it's much more likely that she will find sex with another person enjoyable.
I think all women would benefit from reading "Come as You Are"
by Emily Nagoski. It has a huge amount of information about the findings of research into female sexuality, a lot of which is not commonly known.
You might try using the internet to get you into an excited mood before you start masturbating. And possibly use some of the sex sites while you masturbate. You might try to use different things to stimulate your clit. Enjoy the feeling.
Its not uncommon. It could be for a number of reasons. I would tell your doctor though because you might not be getting enough iron.