Is it normal to not open up

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To not open up completely or trust anyone not even my best friend?

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Based on 80 votes (67 yes)
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  • Alison89
    12 years ago

    I think it's normal to not share EVERYthing. It's a form of self-preservation and you may be self-conscious about some things. I don't think it prevents you from being close or intimate with someone, especially if you're open about some things.

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  • dredge20
    12 years ago

    Well in my case i was very open until my mom left my dad for her boss (my stepdad), who is a total dick (but sucks up to my mom), eats everything in the house, and doesn't make any money. And i rarely ever get to see my dad. And on top of that all my mom cares about is school, doesnt care if my arm is broken without case/splint/etc..

    Stuff like that breaks you for life in "opening up", perfectly normal in my case, have to know the person for at least 2&1/2 years to even hug (friendly hug) them.

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    • Maggles
      11 years ago

      He was HER Boss and now HE doesn't make any money! That's so fuckin funny. You've already witnessed karma in your own house. Damn, sleep wit someone else's bitch lose all yo money. Boys are always left out in the cold. That's what makes em so cool,I guess. They're better at concealing their true feelings and makes em beastier out in the world. Then there is the scary unwanted bitches that beat you up in school and somehow because they are hard and brought up like bullies they see success at the end of the road too! So all this will just make you stronger,successful and more of a beast to deal with in society/workforce.

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  • Smartasscookie
    12 years ago

    I get where you're coming from; you never trust anyone completely because then they can never have the power to hurt you either. However the end result may be that you are not very close to anyone and that is a very lonely place to be.

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  • Gentil
    11 years ago

    It's kinda normal. But, have you always been like this or is it some kind of trauma?

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  • Maggles
    11 years ago

    I believe one should be honest to at least one person in their life. Then when you die at least you were known by someone. Life is pointless without being close to someone. Lets say a cousin dies- yes,its sad but- Did you REALLY know that cocksucker?

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    There's no rule that says you have to but often the things we're insecure about are overplayed in our mind. Yes, some people will hurt you but it's better to be hurt and to learn how to deal with hurt than to live in a shell and never experience trust.

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  • weirdppl
    12 years ago

    I don't tell my best friend everything, and she doesn't ask, we're quite happy like that. But I open up to other people who I know through texting or online chats because they can give me outsider opinions and they don't know me well enough to use the information to hurt me :)

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  • YoBanana
    12 years ago

    Completely normal. No need to trust others completely and theyll never have power over you or you wont be hurt. Well thats my philosophy. People are hard to trust now a days.

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