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I haven't had regular sex for over 1-2 months with my wife because she is in pain, but she does not do anything to treat it, chiro, PT, stretch, exercise, etc I don't feel much if anything for her. More of a platonic room mate than wife. There's not that spark
I DO have pain. IF I don't do stretching exercises daily, don't do strengthening exercises, don't do PT and chiropractic care. And take Ibuprofen occasionally. I have to do stretches every day, within 3 days without it, my back is stiff, sore and in pain. She won't do anything other than just complain, I have given up on trying to help her, she won't do anything. And I work at an office that does medicine, PT, chiropractic, acupuncture, all she has to do is come to the office before the end of lunch and ask. Or ask me at home even. Or do the exercises at home.
I feel your frustration and that I can understand. What I don't understand is why you think you ever loved her in the first place if this is all it took to make you doubt it.
Love, true love, isn't conditional like that. A loving couple is a like a team, even when--perhaps especially when--it's inconvenient or hard or otherwise disharmonious. If the only thing keeping you attached to your wife is/was sex, then I'm sorry, that is not love. I wonder if the disdain is mutual?
Corisone shots in your back help for a few weeks. If you have good insurance i recommend them once a month. That way you can hold off back surgery longer.
I get those. They help.
I feel for your situation. Do you really understand love?
Love is not sex.
A loving relationship may include sex. Millions of older, and some younger people, clearly show that a loving relationship can last for many years without sex at all. Others have shown that a loving relationship can develop and last without any sex.
A simple friendship may include sex.
A hook-up with someone you know nothing about and have no real feelings for may include sex.
I believe that a loving husband (or other loving partner) would be concerned about why their spouse is in pain... and work with them on the situation. Another guess is that you are approaching your wife wrong on the situation. Are you communicating in a way that she understands what you mean? People have different personality styles and different love languages. You need to learn your wife's and learn to communicate to her in ways she innately understands. Then, she is likely to respond better to you.
May I suggest the following books:
Positive Personality Profiles: By, Robert Rohm
The 5 Love Languages: By, Gary Chapman
I wish you well with this,
If she just moans all the time and won't help herself at all no matter how much feelings you had for her will soon be killed.
I don't mean to put an extra 'dent' in OP's ego, but my beliefs are and will remain as thus;
1. Never marry because of parental, peer or soceital pressure.
2. Never marry someone because of your need for sexual gratification. Ejajulatations and orgasms are only fleeting moments part of sexual intercourse. But what if the timing was bad and none of you expected that pregnancy would occur, your incomes still sketchy? I know, you'll answer, that's life.. people figure out a way out of that all the time. No! I personally advocate that people should have children only and only if they really want to.
2. Sexual stimulation of your genitals is pleasurable, but the world today is too materialistic. You have to choose who does that to you carefully and logically. Read about the scandals involving men of reputation being dragged down the rabbit hole because of ignoring this fact.
3. If you choose to be with someone as a spouse on a spiritually mature note, then you wouldn't be afraid to discuss with them the sexual aspect of your relationship's direction if for example either of you had damage from some freak accident to their reproductive system, or one that resulted into a fully fledged physical disability.
What type of pain does she have - mostly in the gluteal and tensor fascia lata/IT band/side of her leg. The office I work at treats it all the time, but she won't go for treatment or even ask me for it at night. Yea, I could do it, but I forget. And she is supposed to start with self stretches. And not interested in therapies. Not interested in acupuncture. Not interested in doing PT. She likes her legs and feet rubbed, which I do probably twice to three times per week, but won't do it herself. Doesn't want to do ice therapy. Does take Ibuprofen, can't take stronger flexeril as it makes her sleepy the next day. Not interested in therapies such as muscle stim or TENS,
It appears it is not unusual, thanks for your comments. This is what it is like, we are room mates - https://www.yourtango.com/experts/drs-evelyn-and-paul-moschetta/americas-hidden-epidemic-roommate-marriages
Grow up cunt! This proves men are dick thinkers and validates my statement!!
This is WHY most women go gay u son of a bitch degenerate waste of space male