Is it normal to not like my boyfriend's family?

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They are overly religious, I am not.
None of them went to college, all of my family graduated from unis.
They are poor because of their lack of education and they don't care, my family is wealthy and they worked for it.
His siblings don't want to go to college because they don't care about being poor. My siblings are all in college getting degrees as am I.
His Mom hates music, I love music.
His sister doesn't know who Greenday, The Beatles, Linkin Park, David Bowie, Metalic, Ozzy Osbourne, or Lady Gaga is.
Although I don't like all of these, I know who they are.

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  • pinkpenguin1234
    13 years ago

    I don't like my boyfriend's family either. They're stuck up and think they're better than everyone else. We've been together for a while (like, 1+ years), and they still don't invite me places with them or try to have any kind of relationship with me. I am very nice to them, but they're not very nice back, especially his sister, who treats me like crap. I think it's okay to not like them, but my boyfriend will be hanging out with me, and his mom will call him and want him to come be with her...AND HE'LL GO! So, I say that if you just have differences and don't like them, that's fine, but if he starts choosing being with them over you, end it!

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Just make sure that your "like" & "love" for you boyfriend includes that he is not at all like the family you share nothing in common with otherwise, especially in terms of his values and what, if you made a life together, you would be living like.

    There's an old saying that the fruit doesn't fall far from the tree. Its not always true of course. But its rare that it would be completely untrue, that the family you spend your most formative years with had no impct on your views, behaviours, expectations, etc.

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  • mysti446
    14 years ago

    It's normal now.. But consider it strongly before the relationship gets more serious. These are very contensious issues in a marriage

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  • lillyserena
    14 years ago

    who cares about his family, as long as you guys like each other- thats all that matters, really. yeah it is normal..

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  • panda44
    14 years ago

    Lol yes it is normal. I don't really like my boyfriend's family to be honest. He has five brothers, and I have four sisters, so I think they're all gross pigs that lack self control, hygiene, and the ability to clean up after themselves. His parents are divorced and his mother is an alcoholic and my parents have been married for over 20 years with no issues of drugs or alcohol ever. NONE of them went to college/have a desire to go, whereas my family is pushed to strive to excel and further our education to at least be a more well rounded knowledgeable person. And I often complain about his family to him (which I advise you don't do haha), but at the end of the day he makes me happy so I put up with "them". If he makes you happy then who cares about his family, hate them all you want. :)

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    • ieatrocksdirt
      14 years ago

      i dont like my bfs family at all. or mine for that matter.

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