Is it normal to not like guys holding doors for women

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It seems like some guys only hold doors for women just to get their attention, like we owe them a smile and thank you. We don't have to do that because it hardly takes effort to open a door, so why is a smile and thank you nessessary? Same with a guy expecting a thank you for holding our place in line, that's even less effort, he doesn't have to do anything but stand there and leave a couple feet of room between him and the person that was in front of me. I did just that once, when I got back I didn't say thanks and he got pissy with me about that. I'm sure that you'll all agree that was an overreaction. It just seems like guys think we owe them gratitude for these things just as an excuse to pay attention to him. Last I checked, a woman does not owe friendliness to every guy she happens to be near. Is it normal for a woman to think that?

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Pumpurrnickel

6 years ago | pl

Not normal, it means you need to learn some manners. Saying "thank you" takes way less effort than holding a door open. Don't ask anyone to hold your place in line either, if you can't show a shred of gratitude.

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- Dustyair
  
  6 years ago
  
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_Mehhhh_

6 years ago | pl

It's not even a sexual thing. I'm gay, so if I hold the door open for you it's not that I'm trying to "get your attention". Even when I hold the door open for a man (who is likely straight) it's not.

It's called having etiquette and manners... and yes the proper response is a "thank you". They didn't have to stop and go out of their own way to let you through.

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Hatchet

6 years ago

would you prefer them to slam the door in your face?

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athem

6 years ago

It doesn't take a lot of effort to say thank you, though. Even if you don't smile. It's just polite to thank people for things like this because they don't have to help you.

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Data

6 years ago | pl

I barely read this garbage, but I'm pretty sure this OP is an angry guy trolling from his straw man's perspective; else a very socially-retarded, borderline-psycho bitch.

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megadriver

6 years ago

You are either a troll, or a very bitter hag. Does saying "thank you" require any effort on your part? I doubt it. Saying thank you, or smiling at someone who has done something for you is called being human. Didn't your mother teach you any manners?!

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Kittenfever

6 years ago

This is not a sexist issue. It's not really an issue at all, actually. Nobody's forcing you to be polite. So, stop saying "thank you" and stop smiling, if you want. Just don't be surprised when doors slam in your face.

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Legion

6 years ago

I just hold doors for people to be nice, It has nothing to do with sexual interest, at least not for me. Sure, if a person is simply doing this with the intent of getting in your pants, I agree that's a dick move, but most people are certainly not holding open doors with that in mind!

It still seems rather rude to assume they are doing such, and just as so to be dismissive of someone who opens a door for you.

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Hotdogsaregross

6 years ago

I'm a woman and I always smile and say thank you to anyone that holds the door for me. Male or female.
Women like you are ridiculous to me.
If your hands were full and a guy didn't hold the door for you I bet you would complain about that too and complain about how guys are so rude these days.

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RoseIsabella

6 years ago

I love it whenever anyone holds a door open for me, and I always say thank you. I also hold doors open for other people, and have been doing so since I was able to hold a door open. It's called having good manners, dumb ass!

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samiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

6 years ago

Yeah! Fuck those dudes who hold doors!

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Nickvey

6 years ago

im a guy 6 feet 5 inches 250 pounds . Big everyone holds the door open for me , its just being polite. I in turn hold the door open when i can for others , just makes a nicer world , i dont see it as a sexual tactic, but you do. i wonder how that happened.

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donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

6 years ago

yallre likely a walkin pilea double standards wrapped in a humungous ego what thinks the world owes yall everythin

it all surrounds a core of a sad damaged lil girl who hates herself and the world

or yallre even more likely just some troll

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rayb12

6 years ago

Um I hold doors or spots in line for everyone.

And if you don't say thank you you're just rude. You say thanks to show respect and not be an asshole.

Its not like some attention from you is this magical thing guys are dying to have lol.

Its just called behaving.

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- Algum
  
  6 years ago
  
  No kidding, I agree. I guess that some women for some reason don't see it that way, they think that even common courtesy is an excuse to hit on them.
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Alot of us women today are rude in case you didn't notice.
  
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  - rayb12
    
    6 years ago
    
    Yep. But not all, and not even majority. So I don't engage with any of you. Stop misbehaving.
    
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    - Algum
      
      6 years ago
      
      No joke, whoever this girl is who posted this one is so full of herself it's stupid. I mean I seen women who act like this sometimes but I then right away say that she's not worth me thinking twice about.
      
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      - rayb12
        
        6 years ago
        
        Its honestly not even that many people. Its just dumb. There are plenty of awesome women out there who aren't rude
        
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        Algum
        
        6 years ago
        
        Yeh. Even if people do forget to say thanks sometimes because they may be totally occupied, in a bad mood, sick, etc., but coming onto here posting out loud about "why the hell should I be courteous?", that I just don't get
        
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      Y'all can say what you want about me, but where I am, my girlfriends see nothing wrong with what I'm saying and they're all the same. What y'all don't get is that we've gotten tired of every dude we've given the slightest smile or courtesy to, them automatically thinking that I'm giving them a free pass into my pants. That shit gets old, try to put y'all selves in my shoes.
      
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      - Algum
        
        6 years ago
        
        Then be courteous when all they're doing is being polite, but then bitch slap them if they try to get into your pants. Don't automatically be rude from the courtesy gestures alone until you see if they try anything afterwards. You're just assuming too soon due to some creeps who may've hit on you after their initial door opening gestures. Not every dude works that way though. I don't.
        
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  - Ellenna
    
    6 years ago
    
    A lot of PEOPLE are rude these days, especially on the internet. I'm an old woman and I hold doors open for whoever's behind me and say thank you when anyone does the same for me.
    
    I don't say anything to the idiots who can see I'm using a walking stick and walk straight at me, usually talking on their phones, or push past me. Oh wait that's not quite true, must be turning even grumpier in my old age: I have occasionally said "Get off your phone" to idiots who aren't looking where they're going.
    
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lordofopinions

5 years ago

I get annoyed with women or anyone who doesn't at least say a brief thank you if I hold the door for them. If they say nothing I call out "you're welcome" and even had them shoot me a dirty look. I am at the point that I won't bother anymore.

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[Old Memory]

6 years ago

Why wouldn't you want to smile or say thank you, it's not exactly hard work! As a woman I never expect a door to be opened or held for me but more often than not it is, it's actually classed as good manners. Responding with a smile and a thank you is also good manners. If you want people to show you good manners then you need to work that both ways. By the way I also would hold a door open for a man especially if he had his hands full. Old fashioned as I am we all need to realise it's the 21st century.

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Bonelessbananas69

6 years ago

It's time for you to get some therapy.

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Boojum

6 years ago

Then there are the women (American women in particular) who have a fit if a guy they're on a date with doesn't open the car door for her, or dares to suggest that they split the bill on their first date.

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itsamistake

6 years ago

I agree with most of the users here, either you are a really bad troll or an absolute cunt of a woman who is so self entitled it's beyond ridiculous.

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- Algum
  
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  She's probably both.
  
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bob7

6 years ago

fully agree with you if a thank you and smile takes too much effort from you, if they dont, you're a complete retard

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Bobtailcatgirl

6 years ago

I agree it's sexism.

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- 2009ispronouncedtwentyohNineKok
  
  6 years ago
  
  It's not sexist, it's called being polite.
  
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  - Bobtailcatgirl
    
    6 years ago
    
    Belevolet sexism look it up.
    
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    - Pink-pumpkin
      
      6 years ago
      
      There's always a sexism for everything they don't agree with. Next, you'll find sexism in breathing.
      
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      - Boojum
        
        6 years ago
        
        I'm a man and I breathe; therefore I inhale air a woman might have inhaled if I wasn't around; therefore my breathing is sexist.
        
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        Pink-pumpkin
        
        6 years ago
        
        Boojum : Exactly, I can predict that if we go on that track, in about 5 years breathing will be a form of sexism.
        
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