Is it normal to not like being touched?*

is it normal to not enjoy being touched and have it make you more tense then more turned on/loved?!

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    there's nothing wrong with not liking being touched.

    personally... I both like and dislike it depending on my mood and the person involved.

    Good mood: I have more tolerance.... as long as there's no "special parts" being touched (cos those are only for my BF to touch).

    Bad mood: the list grows shorter. a lot shorter. I've been known to shake people's hands off of me and flinch from them. ... and if I can't see who's touching me, even if they're on my acceptable list, I'll shake them off too.

    And I've met some who just hate being touched, because of things they've been through.

    but hey if someone gives you crap over it tell them to stuff it.
    the only right response to "don't touch me" is "sorry!" and to STOP touching the person. (or at least stop until it's OK, like in my case where it may be temporary)

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  • HarringtonMD

    it you have aspergers or some form of autism you may not like being tocuhed. or maybe youre just really sexually repressed. good luck with all that.

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    • Hmmaybe

      I have Asperger's and this seems similar to me. I don't like being touched by non-family members but it does turn me on (apart from with family members obviously).

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      • RealisticHonesty

        I have the same problems. I told my brother that I think I might have asbergers but he told me "I know you, you don't". :/ *Sigh* Then what's wrong with me?

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        • Hmmaybe

          How can he know? Someone with the condition can generally tell when someone else has it much better than someone who doesn't.

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          • RealisticHonesty

            Yeah, I suppose you're right. :/ I need to stop letting people tell me they know me better the I do.

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  • soupbowl21

    Maybe if you found the right person to touch you?

    I don't like anyone to touch me, except for my husband. I hate when members of our family hug me and kiss me on the cheek. I'm always very awkward about it. And I hate when friends joke around and poke me or anything like that.

    Depends on who is touching you, maybe.

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  • purpleflower

    Completely normal.
    I, on the hand, like to be touched, but mostly hugged. Not for sexual purposes, it just makes me feel closer to my friends and family. I'm on the other end of the scale.

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  • mateo

    im sorry........................*poke

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  • TheEvilLeprechaun

    I can't help but scratch or rub the spot in which I was touched, Family or not. I can't stand it, but I also have Aspergers and I know that's a common characteristic

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  • disthing

    I think it's often a consequence of how you're brought up and the people you grow up with.

    If you've always been in a social group or family where people always hug each other, maybe greet each other by giving pecks on the cheek, play-fight / wrestle and are generally physically interactive, it usually becomes part of your personality. You're comfortable with that kind of behaviour and associate it with displays of affection.

    If on the other hand your family or friends were never very physically expressive in an affectionate way, or worse they were only physical with you in a negative / violent way, it makes sense to feel uncomfortable if you're touched.

    If it isn't indicative of Aspergers or other similar conditions, often it is just a case of getting used to it. Trusting people who deserve your trust enough to enjoy the sensation of being touched or touching, to enjoy that mode of communication, to associate it with affection, fun and positivity :)

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  • Legion

    im sorta like that. When i was little, if someone hugged me, i would kick and scream. I hit a teacher trying to calm me down in kindergarten. I dont have that problem anymore, but if someone touches me without warning, i still freak out a bit.

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  • crazyfm

    It depends on it...alot

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  • Doesn't matter. You like what you like. Learn to accept that or change your relationship with touching.

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