Is it normal to not know which course of action to take?

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First things first, I want advice, not people complaining about another best friend-love story. So please if you don't want to help then don't read on.

I've posted other stories about loving my best friend, but now I'm asking advice on how to heal myself. Time has changed the way we are, we still hang out a bit and talk regularly, but things are different. She seems distant and quiet, and when I asked her she said she was still trying to sort her life out, as she's still quite young.

However with her being so young, she hit the "I only want fun in my life" stage. Meaning being her best friend, when we do talk, I hear about the majority of guys she's fooled around or hooked up with. I've always been there when she needed me, comforted her and told her it will all work out one day. My love for her seems to increase everyday, and I find myself hurt quite a bit when she talks about these guys. We've had a history, the physical and emotional connection is there, but we're at different stages in our lives.

But I ask what people what they believe I should do. Should I continue to be there for her? Should I distance myself from her? Or is it time for me to move on and should I cut her out completely? She's still a great friend, but I no longer know what to do.

Sorry for the length, I appreciate the help and any suggestions on the courses of action.

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  • disthing
    12 years ago

    I didn't read on :D

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    I'm with pumpedupkicks. You have to really tell her how you feel. For real. Don't drop hints but really tell her.

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  • istrawberry
    12 years ago

    hmm..either way you will be hurt in the end. You'll be hurt just being "friends" with her and you'll hurt if you cut off all connections with her. If this is hurting you, I would probably just distance from her a little bit.

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  • hailstorm
    12 years ago

    I would distance myself completely if she is not willing to try with you. In the long run if you stay in this friend type relationship, you will only get hurt. It's a terribly tough decision but you have to think about yourself this time.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I wish I could help you. I can't even help myself.

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  • Ono
    12 years ago

    You need to be honest with her and yourself. If she's not interested in the type of relationship you are then you need to be prepared to move on. You can still be friends, but i get the impression that being her confidant isn't easy on you and you need to tell her that.
    Goodluck man.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    It's usually the hardest roads in life that prove to be the right ones.

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago

      What rubbish

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  • NothingxCrazy
    12 years ago

    I've gone through almost the exact same thing. Old friend would always come to me and tell me who they've fooled around with even knowing I was madly in love with them and would do anything for them.
    I distanced myself from them but only because it was a one sided friendship and I was just being used as an excuse to get out of the house to go meet up with people to fool around with. I feel it's right to be friends with them as long as you don't feel taken advantage of. Sure she's young, but she still should respect your feelings. Be there for her, but I don't think she'll grow out of it anytime soon. She needs to learn a lesson through her own experience and hopefully she learns it soon.

    Keep her as a friend if you truly enjoy her company but the pain that comes with it is all on you. You know she can't help but be the way she is and she knows she can trust you so she will always come to you for consolation.
    It's really on you and which way you prefer.

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  • DarkExile
    12 years ago

    Usually I say ignore the negative things in life... But you both seem pretty fucked up so meh.

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  • emilydoll
    12 years ago

    I might leave her be and see what happens. Not cut her off but give yourself some peace from her.

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  • :)BABYDOLL:)
    12 years ago

    WOW!

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  • Josie_57
    12 years ago

    i think its hard to judge from the outside when we dont know either of you. your just gonna have to do what you think is best for you and for her. its a really difficult situation to be in, i hope you sort everything out and good luck whatever action you decide to take :)

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