Is it normal to not know whether you want to have children?

Trust me. You don't want 'em. They're dirty, noisy, needy, selfish little beings that are always asking 'why', fighting w/each other, ruining/breaking everything, & pointing out your bad habits & embarrassing moments to everybody.... 'cause they remember EVERYTHING...including those damn drug& sex commercials that pop up after 5pm, & for some unknown reason, you wind up loving them for it. Thankful every day you have them. Because of all this, you wind up spending all your $$ on soap, clothes etc. ($$$!)You have to beat Their little butts every morning because they don't get ready in time & u can't wait to get them to school/daycare($$$$!). Then, while you're at work, you can't keep your mind off 'em. That leads to missing them. By the time you get to pick them up they're all you can think about. & you're so happy to see them. By bed time, you SOOO happy they're asleep. You wind up working & living for them. They cost you everything. & you wouldnt trade it for anything! I tell you they make you crazy! They become the reason you live. They even become the reason to take better care and stop taking risks. They turn your whole world upside down, & you thank the stars they did. I tell you kids really mess you up. There's a whole lot more I could tell you, but this is almost a book already. You may want kids someday, but remember, no matter how prepared you think you are, you're not ready.

My wife was one of my mates long before we went out and she always said she wasn't the "motherly type", eventually got married. We had our first child when she was 31. Now we have two kids and she is the best mother you could wish for. Maybe time is the difference, maybe security is the difference - I don't know. My sister is 36 and has trouble having kids but may adopt. The point is it won't always be easy but you will figure out what is right for you as a couple, together.

I'm 25 now. We've been trying to have kids since we got married going on 6 years. I started getting frustrated and jealous seeing everyone on their 2nd and 3rd kids. We only wanted 2 and we would have been done by now and had the family we wanted. My husband is turning 30. He wanted 2 kids before he was 32. With all the frustration and let down I think we're starting to change our feelings about kids. We are both hard core sport bikers and snowmobilers and we love to take random weekend roadtrips. It's kind of nice not being tied down. He recently lost his job and the only reason it's been a tolerable 2 months is because we have no kids to feed. If we have to go without eating for a day, we're not making kids starve or begging for food. We started taking the negative of the inability to concieve and turning it into a positive. I started getting the feeling of I don't want kids now, but if I get pregnant, then that's great too. We're both on the fence. We have our lives planned out (as much as life will allow) if we don't have kids. We will travel and start our business and if we do have kids I will continue on with my education as I am now. I think we let the glitz and glitter of the little perfect family get in the way of reality. The thing that's bugging me now is people asking and getting nosey on why we don't have at least 1 kid yet. We live in Utah were it's common that chicks pop out kids the second they're married like baby factories...it's acutally kind of gross LOL. I try and look up and be positive but sometimes it gets hard with people little comments here and there that kind of hit you in the gut wrong. Anyway enough about me.........Congratulations on getting married!!! Don't feel pressured into kids. Have a small plan or idea if you have them and if you don't. Even though life changes day to day (boy I know!) it will be nice to be somewhat ready for whatever happens!

I never wanted to have children all through college. After marrying.... Well I now have 3. They are they best things I have ever created. I'm now 54 and would not have wanted to live my life without children!!! Time changes all things.

I am 28 and know for sure I don't want them. If your feeling towards this is still undecided don't push for an answer. The issue should work itself out by then and you may have a clearer answer. Good luck!