Is it normal to not know if u want to be best friends with someone?

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I've been best friends with a girl for 4 years. We always seem to fall out over silly things she brings up that no one else would ever fall out with you over. She makes me feel like I'm pathetic and always make her out to be the bad person, when in fact all I ever do is try and make her happy. Now don't get me wrong when things are good between us, it's perfect we laugh until we can't breath and everything! But when they're bad, they're awful, enough to make me want to kill myself. We are always together at school, literally never apart, I do try and separate myself away but I just don't seem to be able to. The way she always makes me feel like a sad little puppy after all the time just crushes me and makes me feel like nothing, yet she makes out that I'm the bad person- what do in this situation, I can't handle being in the wrong for everything anymore?

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Based on 29 votes (24 yes)
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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Stop being a pawn. Ditch that bitch!!

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    • Terence_the_viking
      11 years ago

      Or scratch her eyes out.

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      • dirtybirdy
        11 years ago

        Or carefully remove them to add to my collection.

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        • Terence_the_viking
          11 years ago

          You collect them i just boil and eat em.

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  • MsNobody
    11 years ago

    I read the first couple lines and was like "damn, this sounds like me and my best friend" the thing is now we're not friends, I'm glad but then I'm upset at the same time. We'd bicker so much! We couldn't go a day without arguing but yet when we didn't speak to each other we'd feel lost and lonely.
    In the end I just got tired, we both had other close friends too, so we wouldn't talk for ages like a week, two weeks after arguments, eventually we stopped talking full stop. That was a year ago and I still miss her but life goes on, it's not worth it.
    Never subject yourself to one party meaning don't just have one close friend have a whole group.
    Talk to her, you're both going through it, you need some space, to just hang out with other people, if you prefer their company you don't just have to cut her off but distance yourselves, you were probably too close.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    When you're really really sad don't think about killing yourself, kill her instead.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    Man you need more than 1 really good friend.

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  • LEMONDROPICECREAM
    11 years ago

    I actually have a friend like this, and i really understand how you feel. I've had a friend say such horrible things to me that. i did not talk to her for months on end. or a year. and she did not even understand why. I understand that you want to seperate yourself. and are unable to. Because actually i have this same problem. You deserve someone to respect you. and I also understand how you feel that she crushes your spirit, making you feel so low. I understand this completly. tell yourself you deserve respect =)

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