Is it normal to not know how to stop thinking negative ?

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So , I've been with my boyfriend for almost 8 months and he's leaving to go to Cali for 3 months in May & I'm so scared as to what is going to happen & confused on what I should do. Neither one of us are good with long distance relationships & when he get lonely after a period of time he cheats. I don't know what I should do because I know I won't be able to talk to him because he's going to me high all the time & with his family. What's should I do ?

Stay with him & try to trust him 6
Break up with him 18
Take a few months to myself 5
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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    If he's already cheated on you "after a period of time he cheats" I don't see what the problem is; break up with him.

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      Um hmm... you know that's right.

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      • kingofcarrotflowers
        10 years ago

        * finger snaps *

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        • dirtybirdy
          10 years ago

          In a "Z" formation?

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          • kingofcarrotflowers
            10 years ago

            That's the one :)

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  • JaxX
    10 years ago

    Im not voting. I met my girl 4 years ago. Love of my life. Lived 3 states away n only got visits for two weeks at a time with up to 8 months without touching one another . Neverr cheated. Never strayed. So i dont want to hear shit about lonely and cheating. If he cant stay faithful get him the fuck out.

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  • Karmasbitch
    10 years ago

    My teeth hurt right now.

    But anyways, break up with him. Your better than that girlfriend, you got this. Your a strong woman, you know who you are girl! And you are not moving to the back of that bus! Stay real and listen to your gut.

    You go girl!

    Good luck.

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  • Riddler
    10 years ago

    You already said when he gets lonely he cheats. That alone should be means to break up with him. I do not see why this was an issue to begin with. He does not love you. Get rid of this prick.

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  • biaj
    10 years ago

    at the point where you started typing and said he cheats when he gets lonely is when you should have known the answer to your question

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  • dickwashington
    10 years ago

    why cant you talk to him while hes high?

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  • iEatZombies_
    10 years ago

    If the truth is negative, how do you refrain from thinking negatively? I'm going to hope what you're saying isn't that you've only been together 8 months, he's already cheated, promises to do so again, and you're going to stay with him.... Is it? If it is, regardless of your feelings for him, you need some self-respect. Get yourself some limits and set them, stat. Nobody likes the victim, not the people around them, not the person who's with them, not they themselves. Go like yourself.

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  • Sog
    10 years ago

    You shouldn't try to stop yourself from "thinking negative" if that's what the reality of the situation is. Your boyfriend is moving far away and it's creating a situation where the relationship is no longer sustainable. And it doesn't even sound like he's interested in maintaining it anyway. You already know what the answer is.

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  • vigorousjammer
    10 years ago

    Regardless if he's cheated or not, long-distance relationships are such a gamble.
    Why wait for something that might never happen? Find somebody local and enjoy your love life.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Oh honey child, you know he's already cheated! Girl, why are you even still with his sorry ass? It's very hard to regain your self-respect once you've lost it, not to mention there are some sexually transmitted diseases that will never go away. Love yourself, free yourself, dump him and move on with your life!

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  • Buttslut
    10 years ago

    All men cheat. Sorry, but I have not met a one who doesn't. Your better of accepting that now. And you can cheat too. My doesn't. He only looks at porn. Then does my Butt. As long as your man takes care of you. Who cares. Live free. or die a slave.

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