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im a 17y.o guy, and im gay. but my parents dont know. i dont know how to come out to them. any help?
Sit down with them alone at some point when nothing else is going on so you won't be interrupted. Tell them you want to tell them something and then you just need to say it. Once you bring it out in the open conversation will continue on it's own. Whether that conversation is good or bad depends on your family and what their beliefs are b
one day when the family is watching tv or eating, burst into the room and yell "i'm gay, so screw you! Yeah, thats right, I like penises!"
ok so update. my parents and friends know now. thank you all, they have taken it surprisingly well.
Drop a hint.. Say something like "oh.. My.. Gosh.. Those pants are just sssssssuper mom.. Thanks for asking.. you silly goose!"
20-old gay male; i didnt come out to my folks because they are anti-gay.if your folks are gay friendly,not anti-gay,u shouldnt have no promblems.it comes to your choice-have both friends who really gain a gay pal. then ones that lost their folks; its 2010;they need to get over it.
Well I'm not gay but I could say that I hate my family so it wouldn't be hard to do!!!! lol
Do it like this
"Mom, Dad umm I'm Gay"
"Yes homosexual"-----just to make it clear, I’m sure they might have an idea, and plus it's 2010 dude it's beginning to become a normal thing!!!
Of course it's normal! I'm sure it's happened to many teenagers before and it will probably happen to many teenagers in the future. You're probably worried about how your family and friends will react?
It will probably come as a shock to them at first but these things take time for people to get used to and once they do they'll realise that you're still the same person and they'll still love you.
Tell people when you feel comfortable and when you're ready to do so. Make sure you have friends who support you as well because it's good to have people to talk to.
There's a TV show where I live in Australia called, Neighbours and just recently there was a storyline where a boy about your age came out to his friends and family. He was embarrassed at first but he had good friends who supported him through it all and some of his teachers at school helped him through it as well. His parents took a while to come round but they eventually talked about everything.
I know it's a TV show and not real life but I thought it was a good portrayal of something that happens to people every day. If you wanna watch the episodes of the storyline to help you through it I'll be happy to give you the links to some of them.
Do it like when you rip off a ban-aid you rip it off quick ao do it like you do a ban-aid zippppppp
It's strange to me that so many people would present the idea of a young man coming out to his family as dealing some sort of crushing blow with some malice or vindictiveness.
I am not gay (a bit on the bi side maybe) but I have to imagine that it is not typically the intention of a young man to cause grief to his family by being gay, but rather they as a young gay man are seeking the acceptance of their family in a world that is quick to pass judgment on all who do not completely conform. I know if I needed to tell my family that I were gay, that inspite of their archaic christian moral value system they would show me acceptance and encouragement to be myself. (My wife on the other hand would probably not be happy if I were gay haha)
I actually came out to my mom not to long ago and I had my best friend there with me cause I was gonna make her force me to come out if I chickened out. So I tell my mom I have something to tell her and I told her I'm gay and she goes "thank god! I thought you were gonna tell me she was pregnant!" lol it's alot more just you building it up to be a big huge thing but I have yet to find one person who has had a
Problem with it. So I say just go for it and just come right out and say it even tho it feels like you never could.
MrHamman, y bother posting if u r going to be a douche?
Sit them down and talk to them or if you find it too hard, maybe call them and tell them by phone.
Pick a time when they are in good moods and make sure to let them know u love them
Good luck
Dear Dad,
I am writing on this Embassy Suites hotel stationary because I lost my sparkle-encrusted notebook on the flight to Thailand. I am on the brink of tears because I've lost so many wonderful pictures.
This correspondence however is not forwarded to yo in hopes that you will mourn the loss of my sparkly notebook, but to inform you that I prefer the company of men.
Yes, that is the reason I am in Thailand. I am desperately searching for a fifteen year old sex slave that I can purchase and name Marvin for my own twisted agenda.
I am writing this to you in hopes that it reaches you well, and that you do not hold the fact that I blew the varsity team against me. Yes, the rumora were true.
As I'm sure you always suspected, I am a part of the Pink Brigade, the Assless Chaps Fraternity, and the Adam/Steve Alliance. I would have spoken to you in person, but as we live in Texas, I do not believe it would have been in the beat interests of my person.
Yours,
(signature in PERFECT cursive with tiny hearts above any I's)
there. That easy.
So this guy in his mid twenties finally decided that Thanksgiving dinner was the right time to come out to his widowed mother. He said, "Mom, I have to tell you, I'm gay!" Mom asked, " does that mean you have sex with other guys?" Son says, "yes Mom, I'm sexually attracted to guys instead of girls". Mom asked, "and do you let other guys put their penis in your mouth?" Son feeling really embarrassed and looking down at his plate says, "well, yes Mom, that's one of the things gays do when they're making love". Mom shakes the gravy ladle in his face and says, "I don't EVER want to hear you complain about my cooking again!"
I suggest telling your friends first. That way you have something to fall back on if your parents are not okay with you being gay. What I suggest doing as well is dropping hints and not talking about girls at all. Drop very subtle hints at first and then start dropping more obvious hints. If they ask you, it means they're ready to hear it. My parents took it alright, but they were pretty disappointed as well. I told them that my friends were very accepting and that helped me out a lot. If you are not ready to come out to them yet, don't do it. It's better when you know you're ready. Find out how they feel about gay people and all that stuff so you have at least some sort of idea of their reaction. Best of luck.
your totally normal but all you got to do is tell them its not hard I know a guy hes gay and didn't want to tell his parents but but when he did he felt like he was able to tell them anything and he lived happily and got married to a man and it was a wonderful life for him
I'm not gay, but what I would do is just not tell them. Wait until you move out of the house. It will save you a lot of tension and drama.
Just relax. Nowa-days more amd more young adults are finding themselves to be gay, lesbien, or bisexual. Point is...you are who you are!...and you are a small part of each of youre parents! They will love you no mater what! Good luck(:
Love the very first comment (TheTodd11) "it's 2010 it's a normal thing". Coming from a straight guy it's quite something. A step forward to tolerance of such a natural and beautiful thing. Made my day
Just note, if you want a way coming out to parents, well never break out on a fight! you might not get the chance to talk about it! And the best part?! its that you have no fucking idea how anyone is going to react! Im coming out slowly to close people, its going fine, every one is taking it fine.. ok its just a different type of life style!
My friend Jamie from London is a closet homo. He just needs to let it out. Let it out man
Do they need to know? Now? If not, don't worry about it. It will get easier later on.
Totally normal. You fear their reaction or you are having difficulty imagining how the conversation will go down.