Is it normal to not have the feelings i should for my grandson?

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I don't know why or I might know but my problem is that I have 2 Grandchildren and I am losing the feelings I should have for the oldest one. I had problems with parenthood when I was younger, and my children went to live with their dad at about the same age as my eldest Grandson is now, but I am finding that I just don't like cuddling him or kissing him goodnight, I have the same feelings towards my children and friends, it repulses me to be tactile, it makes me feel sick, but I am totally different with my youngest Grandson. Is it because my children went to live with their dad when they were younger or is it something else. It will probably happen with him when he gets older as well. I don't like feeling this way and really wish I could change.

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  • saysthiscritic
    11 years ago

    Don't feel obligated to need to be affectionate. If it's not natural it is just awkward. There are still many ways to show him/her how much you care, but don't force the issue.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    It could be psychological. It reminds me slightly of my lack of emotion towards my family. Like Splashy said, perhaps you could make it up to him? You don't have to extremely affectionate but try spending time with him. If not, then maybe you should try to get to the root of your problems by talking to a therapist?

    Good Luck:)

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    can you make it up to him in other ways, hold his hand and involve him in conversation and fun things together without the other kid, if you want to be nice to him you will its yr choice

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