Is it normal to not have hope?

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I have noticed lately that I don't have hope for myself and my future. Like for example; I really like this guy, he's my friend and he has shown signs that he could be interested but I don't act on it because I am certain he would not respond the same way and I am prefectly content with this even though I want to be with him more than anything. Or like I will be graduating this year and I can't pick a major or a college even because I'm sure I will fail at anything I try and I feel like it doesn't matter "that's just the way it is for me" even though I know my life depeds on these types of desicions. I think I'm just scared of being dissappointed so I just don't get my hopes up anymore. Is it normal to be so apathetic? Any advice on how to work on this because I don't seem to find motivation to do anything anymore.

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  • MyHazelLabyrinth
    12 years ago

    ok listen....first off your life doesn't solely depend on what decisons you make now in regards to school..i mean c'mon seriously? what about the rest of your life? what about all those decades of time..? what happened to them?
    and in regards to this person you like well...it seems as if you are content with not trying because that means not taking risks and not getting possibly hurt. But the thing is, your mind might be thinking "if only i had...or i should have..or..i wonder what would have happened if i had..." maybe not, but then again, maybe.

    Me personally, i'm shy but ridiculously curious. So even if i feel apathetic about something i still want ot give it a go because i want to know what could have happened.

    You sound a bit depressed, that could just be my imagination but it is a possibility.

    I think you really just need to beleive in yourself a little more and don't put so much pressure on yourself to be a certain way.

    I can't tell you what to do because i am not you and dont know you, only you do. So yes, it is up to you to make a change if you actually want to. Do you want to?..

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  • MisterPanic
    12 years ago

    I'm having issues like this too. Sometimes it's really bad and sometimes I feel quite OK. I always screw it up when I like a girl, my grades are usually bad, and I have zero confidence that I will ever achieve something. I think this has something to do with my past, I've never done something right in terms of relationships or school, and I'm not expecting this to change in the future. I don't know if you can relate to this but if so, you should try to forget the past and make a new start, without thinking of the consequences your decisions could have.

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    Yeah, thinking about those kinds of things can be pretty overwhelming, especially if you do not have anyone to help you figure them out. My suggestion to you is to just take it one itty bitty tiny step at a time, and try not to worry about it too much. Try to accomplish something, anything, at least once per day.

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