Is it normal to not have friends?

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I'm a pretty average 19 year old girl, and yet I really don't have any friends! It's not that I can't make friends (though it's not a complete breeze, either), it's just that all of my friendships come to an end much sooner than I would like. Throughout middle school, all of my closest friends would always end up moving away! Whether it be to a different country, city, or school; they always left and we eventually lost touch. In high school, I had lots of friends and was considered "popular", but once all of those friends started getting into drugs, I stopped being friends with them and only hung out with my then best friend, who I eventually also had to stop being friends with because she got into drugs. Mind you, the drugs Im referring to are fairly light (weed and ecstasy mostly). Ever since then, I've had only a few friends at a time, and they never last long. One friend ditched me for her bf, one friend I had to ditch because she was just... Toxic. A total downer that drained my energy. Another friend who I'm on the fence about because I don't exactly trust her judgement and there are just many things that irritate me about her, and just today, my very closest friend (who is also my big brothers girlfriend. Not as awkward as it sounds, lol) randomly told me not to talk to her anymore (because she got into a fight with my bro.. I'm still confused about it). So I'm pretty much down to one friend!! At least, one friend in America. The rest of my close friends live in another country :/ but I just don't know why this happens to me! I figure it's because I'm kind of picky (I won't be friends with druggies, sl*tty people, or people who really don't have any goals in life) I guess you could say I'm more on the judgemental side.. But regardless, I feel like I'm such a genuinly nice, caring, fun-loving person, and I'm not sure why I can't manage to find any good friends! What is going onnn?

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  • knockout
    14 years ago

    It's not normal, but I think that you sound completely normal. I wouldn't hang out with people who do drugs and are sl-ts. I don't mind the people who don't have goals in life, but that's just me.

    I think it's just bad luck. Your close friends happen to move away. And you can't find any good friends.

    I think you should keep searching for friends, cause there are so many people out there who might meet your requirements. I wish the best of luck to you! :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    You sound more discerning than judgmental. And while the narrows the scope it raises the quality because you know you are not going to be happy around people who behave in ways you do not wish to.

    So there is nothing wrong with what you are doing. People move. Some are not good candidates. And in the case of you brother's ex-gf, pretty understandable she's not going to hang out with you after, at least for a while.

    What's going on is bad luck, not anything you are doing from what you say. You can make new friends though it is, as you said, not a breeze. But do continue & I bet your luck will change.

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  • peterrabbyt
    8 years ago

    Suck a few cocks and you will have friends for sure.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    It is not normal. All girls have friends, except you my dear.

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