Is it normal to not have feelings for people anymore?

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For the past several years now, I have noticed that my romantic urges have completely diminished. I want to date, but I feel no spark for anyone. I can look at someone and think they are handsome and very attractive, but when I think about dating them; that feeling of "butterflies" isn't there. For a while I started to think I was asexual but I do have those urges so I'm pretty sure I'm not asexual. I used to feel all sort of things back in high school towards guys but now that I've been out for 7 years- I dont feel anything for anyone. I feel like an empty shell. I feel so out of place when my friends talk and get all giddy about liking and talking to some guy in a college class; and I can't relate at all. Am I aromantic?

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  • leaflights
    5 years ago

    This happened to me for about 2 years but eventually I developed feelings for someone after being friends with them. It wasn’t a normal crush feeling, it was like love that developed over time getting to know the person

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  • Ellenna
    5 years ago

    It sounds as if you've matured and grown out of the romantic butterfly response, but no feeling anything for anyone probably means you're depressed

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    I never get butterflies for anything.

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  • paramore93
    5 years ago

    There are many different types of asexual and aromantic. It's not always a case of either-or, there can be grey areas and blurred lines. Maybe you just haven't found the right guy yet.

    Here's a link anyway.
    https://www.asexuality.org/en/
    Those guys really helped when I was trying to figure out whether I was aromantic.

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