Is it normal to not have children at 30?

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I want kids. All my life I saw my fellow students get pregnant as teens or marry just out of highschool. As I grew older, now my friend's oldest kid has a new baby! She's nearly my age and a grandmother!

I'm not even a parent yet and it makes me sad. Literally every single person, male and female, that I know has a kid or used to have one (passed away). I've never even experienced it yet. Now I see teenagers walking down the streets with children and I get jealous. It makes me feel childish.

A family member told me to just go get knocked up by someone random but of course I would never do that in a million years, I find that disgusting. I want a stable home life before I have kids but I haven't found anyone worth marrying or even living with. I feel like maybe i'm just not meant to raise a family. Not everyone is, right.......?

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    It is okay that you haven't had any kids yet but I would start looking for a partner sooner than later , if you do want them . I don't think you should have kids for a sense of maturity though , this makes no sense .

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I don't have any specific reason to have kids other than my biological clock ticking.

      Logically, I know that my family has genetic problems i'd rather not pass on (athsma, eyesight, diabetes). Emotionally, I know that two parents are more stable than one, especially if one randomly drops dead or gets imprisoned.

      But I still can't shake this intense desire to be a mother. It must be hormones or something?

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    Is this meant to be sarcastic in light of the racial, gender posts of late? For behaving responsibly you feel bad? A 30 yr old grandmother???

    Having a stable home to raise kids in is the ideal and even that doesn't work out sometimes.

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    • slings_and_arrows
      8 years ago

      So funny...30 yr old grandma! Sorry OP, but that's kinda skanksville behaviour.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        8 years ago

        maybe so.. but in the end, they have families and I don't. a skanky family is better than not having one at all.

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        • [Old Memory]
          8 years ago

          Uh, no it's not. Especially if you're the one supporting multiple people, people who have he capacity to support themselves.

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            8 years ago

            Nothing wrong with having children young if you can support them. and there is nothing wrong with kids living with their parents past 18. your attitude is kind of heartless tbh. Humans aren't animals to attack their children into leaving the nest.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      * And she's not 30, she's 35. I said nearly my age. We were 4 years apart in school but we grew up together and are friends.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I am being 100% serious and I have not read the other posts lately. I haven't been on the site in about 2 months.

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago

        You sound like you are rushed for this. That's not good at all.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          When you hear your biological clock ticking, you feel rushed! Women in my family hit menopause in their late 30s, I am worried.

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  • geek_god_101
    7 years ago

    TO NOT have children by age 30 is an absolute miracle! I wish more people were like that and thought like the OP here.

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  • handsignals
    8 years ago

    I'm someone random Giggity Giggity!

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    Yes. 100% normal. Do you have any idea how fucked we would be if everyone had to have kids before they were 30? This world is already over populated, imagine if EVERYONE had kids. Most people don't actually have kids, just a small percentage of us spawning multiple offspring.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Hmm.. maybe. but many people also have siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles to share their lives with. I don't, I live alone.

      Friends, while they are nice to have around, have their own families to take care of. Inviting friends over for dinner once a week is not the same as having a family to come home to every night....

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