Is it normal to not have any friends in college?

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This is the first time I've ever posted something like this online, but I really want to know if it's normal to go through 3 semesters of college without making a real friend. I'm almost 20 years old and since I moved from Southern to Northern Cali, it seems impossible to meet anyone. I'm pretty shy, but I'm trying to gather up some courage and talk to people. The problem is, they never really seem interested in becoming more than someone that one would discuss homework with. I never really had good friends in high school. I've been burned so many times that I feel as though I don't want to waste time meeting people. Instead, I put up walls to protect myself. I thought things would change once I moved up north, but nothing seems to be working. Not to mention, I haven't exactly had a boyfriend yet...Another thing I don't understand. I never get hit on. I don't think I'm ugly or weird, but the lack of attention is making me second-guess myself. I'm just starting to feel really lonely, and it seems like the only people I can actually talk to are my parents (I'm living at home and commuting to school). Is all of this normal?

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  • ManicMan
    11 years ago

    I'm 22 years old and just starting to think about getting into college/university.What interests you...what makes you itch?Be it philosophy or sports whatever it may be, I suggest you think about it then approach your fellow classmate/s.Just try to find others who have similar interests and go from there.As far as normal is concerned just try to do things at your own pace.
    Hey talk to me if you want, I'm on IIN quite a bit. :)

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  • diaperwolf21
    11 years ago

    Im A ghost, I have friends for about a year then for some reason I fall off the face of the earth as if i was never here to begin with. Its pretty easy for me to make friends, but hard to keep them.
    I had a girlfriend for one week, then moved.
    I'm like a ninja,I can disappear and no one knows where I went.
    But I'm commited to IIN so you can talk to me if you want.

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  • herpaderpa
    11 years ago

    I'm sort of the same, I just finished university and didn't really make any friends, a few of them I would consider acquaintances seeing as I'm pretty shy myself...

    Don't put yourself down.. If it makes you feel better, I'm 21, never had a relationship (I'm a guy). I do feel a little lonely sometimes but I try to look forward and imagine that I'll meet a someone special one day.

    You can ask me anything else if you'd like :)

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