Is it normal to not have any friends

I'm a 19 year old girl. I have no friends at all. A few years ago my best friend got cancer and last June she passed away. I do have a boyfriend and me not having any friends really makes things hard. He says it's always just him and me hanging out with nobody else and he gets bored with me. And when he hangs out with his friends i just sit at home doing nothing.. Any advice? :(

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  • bigguy2010

    You need to find a community group to join. Church is a great way to meet good people. Have you thought about starting a special interest group? Most newspapers will advertise a new special interest group meeting for free.

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  • SingleandChildfree

    Be a friend to yourself first. And take your time in doing this. There is no need to rush out and try to make friends. I tried that and that has been one of my biggest regrets and I don't have one friend to show for it. People can be deceiving. It takes time to make real friends. So be a friend to yourself first. Ask yourself what it is you like to do. I know God gave you a gift or talent. Pursue it 100%. Whatever it is. I've decided that I want to be a playwright. So what I'll be doing is writing a play and then putting out a notice to get people together to read the play. I've already called the library and they've said I can reserve a room there for 25 dollars and I'll get that money back just as long as we keep the place nice after we leave. This will not only allow me to meet people who have interests like mine but it's a social outlet. And who knows, I may make some friends out of the experience. And please don't put all of your enjoyment into your boyfriend. As a matter of fact, don't put all of yourself into any human being because the one thing you can depend on when it comes to people is that people are undependable. The bottom line is open your net wide, don't ever narrow yourself to kinds of people you meet, no matter what race or age. The world is big. And when you feel the time is right, get on out there and enjoy it!

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  • CuppycakeXD

    That's normal, I've been drifting apart from my own friends because I feel like they give me a negative vibe and they piss me off easily. But I always try to bond with people who have the same interest as me, because it's not good to be lonely.

    You should do as the other posters say, about going out to clubs and blah blah. I wanted to learn how to knit and I took a class course for it (lol) and I met people there :)

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  • thegift

    Arent you tired everyone telling you that you need to go out and make friends? Duhh no shit, right? Afterall, that's pretty much what this post is about.

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  • danman72

    To answer your question it is not normal to have no friends that's actually very unhealthy. As human beings we are social creatures and we need to be around other people to live a happy normal life. So my advice is to make some friends at school or at work or wherever you go. Just be friendly and hav a smile on your face and people will react to it. Just try it.

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  • StarGirl13

    you need to get out and be social.
    sorry to hear about your friend :( thats so sad.
    But after that happening it should show you how short life is, don't waste time sitting inside doing nothing, get out experience what's going on around you. new restaurants, bars, art, go clubbing go get drunk and etc etc. just have more fun in general!

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  • stefani52

    Try joining a club or a sport and be open and friendly with people

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  • ruintopreserve

    If you're going to post secondary school, it's a great chance to meet people, and if you're working instead then why not try getting closer with some of your co-workers?

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