Is it normal to not have any freinds?

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So I'm married, 3 children, happily married 45-50 yr old male with a decent paying profession. Love the family, my kids, I adore my wife AND I have no friends. It's not like I don't socialize, I do. I talk to people at work but it's mostly superficial and the work environment leads mostly to keep you at arms length. I have had a couple of friends that were sort of regulars, but for one reason or another the wives didn't get along and it became awkward, or they moved away and we just dropped things. My wife has friends and I like most of the husbands, but mostly just acquaintance type of relationship. My wife says that i should have a couple of close friends and it's not normal to not have any, but I guess I don't like the responsibility and care and feeding that comes with it. To tell you the truth outside of my family I really don't think I like people that much. It would be nice to have someone to talk to once in a while and know that they are there for you, but I never ever felt that way about anyone (other than my family) and it almost seems like too much of an investment that it's not worth it. Is this normal?

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  • Nasty_Cole
    8 years ago

    You're 45-50? That's your problem!

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  • amyxox23
    12 years ago

    Normal. My dad is 48, and always says "who has time for friends!?" or "Who needs friends?" He hangs out with family. His drinking buddy is his brother in law AKA my uncle.
    They were actually good friends before he and my aunt got married.

    My dad also has a best friend who lives in our town, and they stayed friends when I was a child, but went years and years without talking.
    Every now and then, (like twice a year) they will talk.

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  • ThatOneOtherPerson
    12 years ago

    You sound like a older version of me.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    It's certainly normal for men. That's why they pop into into the local pub and prop up the bar - then they can choose to talk or ignore people. Anyhow, I think we all filter out 'friends' as we get older and we choose to spend more time with our families.

    It's said that if you find one true friend in your lifetime, you are a very lucky man! ... so don't worry about it.

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