Is it normal to not have a core group of friends?

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I am 37 years old and I have 2 people who would count as friends. One is my partner and the other is my sister. They are both very popular and have people calling at all hours wanting their friendship. They are always going out with friends and are always the life of the party. I have no trouble talking to people. They just seem to have no desire to talk to me. I go to functions, see people who call me a friend and they tell me how much they miss me and wish we could stay in contact. They tell me to call, text or facebook them. I do all 3, repeatedly, until I start to feel like a stalker. I get no responses and no one goes out of their way to know me. I hate being this alone but I don't know what to do to change it. I am getting to the point where it is actually bothering me more than normal. I am not suicidal and doubt that a lack of friends will ever put me there.

I don't know anymore...

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Based on 47 votes (35 yes)
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  • Misa760
    12 years ago

    That's the same with me. It all happened after graduating High school. Had tons of friends but now 4 years later don't have no one really to call a true friend. Everyone went their own way as so did I. But no worries I have my girlfriend and my handsome baby boy and that's all I need. And I'm 21

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  • my_calcifer
    12 years ago

    Not sure if it's normal or not so I haven't voted. But this sounds exactly like me. My best friends are my fiancée and my mum, and I have mostly "acquaintances" who are mainly friends of my fiancée. I just have hobbies that are better on my own. I do a lot of embroidery, baking, I find time to walk the dog and keep my house clean and tidy. I paint, draw, take photographs. It's not a lonely existence. Just a singular one. I'm 22.

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