Is it normal to not get over your first girlfriend even after a year?

I dated this girl for a long time and it was my first relationship. It's almost been a year since she broke up with me. I still can't get over her. I still feel like I care about her and I can't get over this. I tried lying to myself, but then I saw her again and all of those feelings came back. Is it normal to take a long time to get over your first love?

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Based on 38 votes (34 yes)
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  • CranberryTiger

    I think a lot of people will always have some feelings towards their first love. This is normal - it's a new experience, and obviously one that's very personal to you. Personally, the story of my first love is one I know I'll always treasure.
    I don't recommend trying to find a rebound, as in my experience it won't get rid of your feelings for her but simply push them aside; they may come back at a later date and this can be difficult and confusing. You need to take time to get over her, even if this takes longer than you expected. I expect that when you find someone else that you genuinely care about, you won't find that it's a problem. :)

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  • Fiaaa167

    I had the exact same thing with my first love, you just have to find someone else..i know this is going to sounds really bad, but you're going to have to find a rebound, but it will help and who knows you might fall for her too:) It took me a year too but then i found someone else,(not intending it to be a rebound at all) but our relationship only lasted for about a week and i know that's terrible but it helped me and helped keep my mind off him..so chin up and keep looking! You'll get over her somewhen, might take a while though:/

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  • nursebetty

    Completely normal, some get over people quickly and some take years. You obviously really loved her, you may never truly get over her but you'll find someone else who will fill your broken gaps

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