Is it normal to not get along with your mom?

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I love my mom to death don't get me wrong but I am away for college & obviously she misses me & wants to call me 24/7. But I just have nothing to say to her when I am on the phone. We've always have a "hot & cold" relationship. She just loves to smother me with love & it's really annoying. I also have a bad temper so that doesn't help. I wish I could talk to her for hours but I just have nothing in the world to tell her so it's just awkward, & after every phone call I just get so mad & angry because idk it's just the mood she puts me in. Help!

Other important facts: I am her only daughter & she lives on her own. & I always notice that when I am in a relationship with a guy, my mom & I get along so much better & actually have stuff to discuss (because I can actually ask her questions/advice) but now (that I am single) I feel I have nothing to talk about with her. Lol.

I really want to improve our relationship but I just don't know how. Thanks [:

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I think what you're experiencing is fairly normal and it's nice that you hope that it gets better. I think it would improve if you tried to shift the focus of conversations with her from yourself to her. Start taking an interest in her world (if it's boring, write it down so you don't forget it). Do it out of politeness and courtesy. Lay of asking her for advise for a few months, that's not the only thing that mothers are good for.

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    • opal-leaves
      12 years ago

      Aw thanks :) Yeah I am really trying. I hope our relationship gets better.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        :)
        I hope so too, but I would bet a lot of money that you guys are going to have a great "adult" relationship together once you iron out the kinks. Good luck to you both.

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        • opal-leaves
          12 years ago

          Aw thanks, I also have a problem like talking back to her I kinda insult her :/ Yeah bad. Lol any advice on that :/

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I would give anything and everything to have a mom like yours.my mom gave me away when I was 5,I moved to another country and lived with strangers and growing up was hell.its been 21yrs and I only spoke and saw my mother last year but we have no relationship.sometimes I wish she was dead cause then I would accept that the reason I can't see or talk to her is because she is dead.pls find a way to be friends with your mom.

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    • opal-leaves
      8 years ago

      wowo thanks

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  • AusDingo
    12 years ago

    Easier if you're a dude. Same sex parents and kids butt heads more than they get along. Thats how it goes. Parents can still smother you, the only way I've found comfort is in dealing with them no longer as parents, but like coworkers or classmates. Old coworkers or classmates.

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    • opal-leaves
      12 years ago

      That's true, never thought of it like that! Thanks :)

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    You're probably cross coz you feel your conversations are a waste of time. She just wants to know you're happy and safe. So why not just text her that and tell her you're heading to bed. Nyt.

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  • myownopinions
    12 years ago

    It's normal. You can't really change anything though until your temper is more controlled or you can find a safe topic that won't get either of you upset.

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  • Carlosolrac
    11 years ago

    Poor her... she loves you and tries to show you that and feels annoying, i'm a man and I'm like that with my parents. Like them but... just dont have a BIG relationship.

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