Is it normal to not feel the need to come out?

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Well. . . I'm bisexual and although I have never been with a male, I am sexually attracted to men and would look forward to being in a relationship with one if I did not already have an awesome girlfriend. After having seen many gay themed films I realized that the crux of many of them lies within the struggle to come out to one's family. In my situation, I see no point in coming out because I have a girlfriend that I find irresistably attractive who I have been with for six years. My girlfriend knows of my sexuality but family doesn't. Since I'll probably never get to explore the gay half of my sexuality (if all remains well with the future wife) is there any point in my coming out to my family? Also, I feel somewhat like I'm betraying the gay community for not coming out. Is any of this normal?

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  • sweetdani
    11 years ago

    I personally have thought about it, too. I am bisexual and am in a relationship with a guy. I think that if I ever get into a relationship with a woman, I'll think about coming out, but for the time being I want to enjoy the amazing relationship I'm in with my boyfriend. I don't feel as though I'm lying to anyone, I'm just making the choice to keep something to myself, something that I have the right to keep to myself. So far not coming out hasn't bothered me at all.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    I've found myself in the same situation. I'm bisexual but lean a bit more strongly toward men, so at this point in my life I haven't dated a woman. If that would ever happen I would come out, I just don't see a need to outside of that. I'm out to all my friends and open about talking about it to people I meet, but I don't know how my family would react.

    I'd be more afraid coming out to them as polyamorous, because I could easily see myself picking up more than one person if the circumstances were right. o.o

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  • krisichi
    11 years ago

    Well as long as your girlfriend knows it and is okay with it there's no problem to come out an tell your family too. It's your choice you can or you can leave it alone for the one being. And if you want to participate in gay events you don't have to tell your parents you dont even have to be gay to do it. I know many nongay members who go out and support gays

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  • Imposturously_yours
    11 years ago

    You're not betraying anyone. I never felt the need to come out either and I have absolutely no one around to judge me and etc. Just enjoy being yourself and live your life.

    Community, shmonunity...

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  • moomus
    11 years ago

    It's really no business of anyone's but yours (and that of your partner) who you are attracted to and want to have sex with. Personally I have never understood why people get so upset when someone "comes out". At the end of the day what goes on in someone's personal life has sweet fuck all to do with anyone else, as long as you aren't hurting anyone, so carry on as you are and be happy!

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  • purpleflwerchild
    11 years ago

    There would be absolutely no point to it especially since you are considering marriage to your girlfriend. Ask yourself if anyone would really benefit from knowing. Then ask yourself if any harm could come from it. Then make your decision.

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  • krisichi
    11 years ago

    Sorry I meant leave it alone for the time being.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Yes becasue you are a big fat liar if you don't.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    you like big black cocks! Admit it!

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