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I have always been physically or emotionally attracted to guys, but never sexually. I can be turned on by how someone speaks or looks, but never once have I been turned on by a p€nis for example lol.
Is this normal?
You could be asexual and only experience aesthetic attraction.
You could be too young to have sexual thoughts yet.
Most people, I think, aren't turned on by penises though unless they're already "in the mood", but rather seeing someone attractive. They know they want to have sex with them.
If you're asexual you might either feel neutral or like "wow he's really good looking" and it either makes you non-sexually enjoy his looks but that's it, feel a desire to touch him non-sexually (such as holding hands) or just nothing.
You could also be demisexual meaning you need to form a strong emotional bond before experiencing sexual attraction to people. That could explain feeling attracted to how people talk.
As Skulls said, you won’t define you sexuality in a day. In fact, your sexuality may be completely different than how anyone else feels. 🤷🏾♀️
Just live your life. And wait till you’ve matured a bit to expect other mature people to undershot you feel. Feeling do change.
Perfectly normal. I am not sexually attracted to anyone despite having a celebrity crush.
Normal, I have never been attracted to anything sexual, including genitalia, either.
I also think some people tend to find an emotional connection more attractive/appealing than the sexual aspect of being with someone.
I don't know how young you are but maybe it's something that will develop in a later stage of your life. It's a similar process when it comes to fetishes. My fetishes have constantly developed over time as the old ones become boring / less interesting. By now I get turned on by stuff that would have seemed weird as fuck to me as a teenager. So it's definitely possible for you to develop a physical attraction to things that you didn't feel attracted to before at all. Or otherwise yeah maybe you're asexual but I doubt that if you say you can get turned on by how someone speaks or looks and you know you're heterosexual.
So you feel a degree of sexual attraction to guys but think their dicks look weird basically?
kinda?? it’s complicated but i have and would kiss a guy, but the thought of doing anything else just isn’t in my interest. lol sorry if that made no sense
That does make sense, it’s possible to feel romantic attraction without sexual attraction. I recommend some research into asexuality and the “split attraction model” (which goes into detail in how romantic and sexual orientations can differ). This website is a good place to start, I recommend a read of the FAQ sections:
https://www.asexuality.org/
Remember that there is no rush to label yourself and if the label that fits you changes over time that is ok.
Idk what its like to be a girl but I dont know anyone who felt that way as a teen
You're probably just a virgin that is now ready for sex. Genitals are a turn off at first, unexpectedly. But once u start having sex It's all good.
Yeah it normal but I think you might be asexual
asexual definition: “the lack of sexual attraction to others, or a low interest in sexual activity”
I myself am asexual and aromantic so not romantic or sexual attraction to others.
Are you trying to convince yourselve you not gay ,cause you not interested in a penises!!!so might in interested in girl sexual parts?? Just saying
Hi OP! If you aren't a regular here (and as a teen odds are, you shouldn't be) it might be helpful to know that this guy represents one end of a spectrum...
For the record, in my late teens I was totally the same. Now I often wish I could turn my sexuality off completely. It just wreaks havoc with situations that would otherwise be a lot simpler and makes it harder to get stuff done. If I could only feel sexually attracted to the person I was planning to settle down with, and nobody else, that would be ideal.
Ok then I hate that you fill this way about penises, but who know in the future might change your mind!! Just saying
It's not normal to have sexual thoughts as a teen because you're a minor.