Is it normal to not feel bad about not paying mom back?

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I owe my mom around $2,000 or so, and I haven't been paying her back. I actually feel good about not paying her because it's become a form of punishment. I feel bad only because it affects my personal integrity, but I do truly enjoy holding back the money from her because she screwed me over so bad as a kid I feel like she owes me.

I'd never get anything out of her any other way, so I feel like this is the only way I can hurt her for how she did me so wrong. IIN?

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Whatever your personal differences - a loan is a loan and should be dealt with in a business like manner. That said, you are an example of the reason the old saying goes that you should never lend money to friends or family.

    As pointed out ^^^ you are also burning your bridges.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      XD Exactly.

      It's just not how it works in the real world and it shouldn't have to work this way at home. Like telling the bank "you fucked the economy over" will make it OK for me not to pay MY loans XD

      I've gotten something like $6-8000 in loans from my uncle in the past two years and paid them all off and every time I need a loan he'll give it to me because he knows that I will pay them off. Credit is not a difficult concept.

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  • Fanayvea
    11 years ago

    Dude, i can relate. my mom was a terrible mom. I can understand your feelings, like your getting back at her. but, really. I believe that people should remain honest to one another, an you really should pay her back. I REALLy understand what your coming from, but just give her the money before she hires a guy to break your thumbs.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    It's normal to not want to hand $2000 to someone that you fucking hate, but even in such circumstances I would recommend you pay her back.

    Despite how you feel, you may need another loan or more aid in the future and I doubt she'd give it to you when your tab is still so high. That's kind of how credit in the world of finances works. Banks screw our country over, but I might need a loan someday so I'm diligent with paying my debts.

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  • bigd25
    10 years ago

    you are a sorry ass person

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    hatever your personal differences - a loan is a loan and should be dealt with in a business like manner. That said, you are an example of the reason the old saying goes that you should never lend money to friends or family.

    As pointed out ^^^ you are also burning your bridges.
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  • Cheradenine
    11 years ago

    Unless she put cigarettes out on you and made you a cripple, pay the money you selfish scummer

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  • Faceless
    11 years ago

    Maybe if you were say, raped as a child and its her fault, then carry on. But if its just money she supported your non caring 1st world ass then you need to pay her back.

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  • Boo!
    11 years ago

    My mom is like that, she did the same thing to my grandma yet with a bigger amount. She got away with it but I felt like that was a horrible thing to do. Don't go back on your word, be a responsible adult. I dislike my mom too and she's done a lot of things that I can’t ever forgive her for but I feel holding a grudge on someone is childish. I'm trying to let go of the past and move on. You should do the same, if she’s a horrible person as you say then just eliminate her from your life. Pay her back and never speak to her again, it will be her loss.

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  • ForMyPeaceOfMind
    11 years ago

    I say pay her back and be done with it...show her that you're the bigger person!

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    • gargamel
      11 years ago

      Amen!

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