Is it normal to not feel anything for women?

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In my 30's now and haven't been able to nail down a relationship in any form. I've often been the "Sweet Guy" that a lot of women turn to for help or emotional support. Some are genuine friends, others have blatantly strung me along, promising to date me or "Give me a chance" once they're ready. Never happens.

Thing is, in a way I hate women for it, but I know it's not every woman's fault. Odds are I got slammed with really really shitty luck but here's the catch. I don't find any of them attractive anymore.

No feelings for them, no empathy anymore, no desire for a relationship because it feels like I've missed too much and I can't trust women. Like, anyone who is with me is doing it out of sympathy or a bet they lost.

It's caused me to suffer from depression for over 6 years now, and worse yet I worry that even if i do luck out with someone. If it ends, I'd hurt myself. Guess I'm just at a loss of what to do.

Maybe hate is a strong word for it. Don't really feel anything for women, I doubt that this is normal, but any suggestions or advice would help I suppose.

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  • CountessDouche
    8 years ago

    I think your response is normal. Apathy and resentment are common responses to emotional trauma, and feeling rejected is just that. It is emotionally traumatic.

    People these days love to downplay the pain that others suffer. The attitude is constant one-upsmanship, and the advice is always to toughen up, because everyone's had it way worse, so your problems don't matter. I find that attitude to be complete bullshittery. Pain is pain, and it shouldn't be judged on a continuum. Feeling unloved and unappreciated is a horrible and isolating state of mind.

    Have you put yourself out there? Are you expecting a woman to fall into your lap? Have you tried online dating sites, anything? The person who changes your mind isn't going to just show up and knock on your door unless you're proactive.

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  • smal.girll
    7 years ago

    Don't listen to anyone else who says it's not normal. No matter what anyone says, you don't choose your sexuality, and you should NEVER be ashamed for how you feel.

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  • Wrong_Again_Dumbass
    8 years ago

    It's very frustrating to be there for women and hear such things as "why can't I find a nice guy?" and there you are right in front of her.

    I don't blame you for blaming women to some degree, it isn't all women's fault, but they do shoulder some of the responsibility. Everyone has a certain level of tolerance and patience when it comes to dating/relationships and after a certain amount of time you get burned out from the frustration associated with it.

    I hear you loud and clear OP.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    8 years ago

    Oh well.

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  • PlebolaVirus
    8 years ago

    I don't feel anything for anyone at all. Embrace the apathy, it is a good thing.

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  • smegmabutter
    8 years ago

    I'm you but add a decade and throw in a divorce. Never gonna get better. Just give up and focus your energy on something worthwhile instead of wasting your time trying to impregnate one of those dumb animals. As an individual you are not gonna make much difference to the human gene pool anyway.

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    • Wrong_Again_Dumbass
      8 years ago

      How bad was the divorce? I wouldn't consider a marriage in any way, shape, or form with a pre-nuptial agreement. If the woman isn't willing to sign, well we aren't getting married.

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