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He says I’m tight, and yes, I can feel it go inside me. But I don’t feel any pleasure or pain. So I get nothing out of it. It’s boring to me. Which is the reason I never want to do it. But he always wants too. I get nothing out of it. I don’t understand what’s there to even enjoy about it.
It’s normal, most of the nerve endings in women are in the clit so if he’s not doing anything there you won’t feel much.
Does he at least go down on you, satisfy you orally? Penetrative sex is quite overrated compared cunnilingus for a lot of women. If he's just pleasing himself, and not trying to satisfy you then you might want to reevaluate whether, or not he's worth your time.
If you find sex boring, then I have to wonder how much you actually like the guy. Some women are fine with sex being a purely physical thing, but many - maybe most - need to feel some sort of emotional connection to their partner in order to enjoy it.
Maybe I'm leaping to conclusions, but it sounds to me like you're pretty clueless about what sort of sexual stimulation you require to find sex pleasurable and the guy is equally ignorant.
Something like three-quarters of women never have an orgasm during penis-in-vagina sex. For most women, their clitoris is too far away from their vaginal opening for a penis thrusting in their vagina to provide enough stimulation to the clitoris for them to have an orgasm. Also, the average woman requires something like 15-20 minutes of clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm, while the average guy requires much less in order to come.
But there's also a psychological aspect. If a woman has the attitude that she's not going to enjoy sex because she never has and it's just this tedious thing she has to tolerate in order to keep her guy happy, then it's almost certain she won't enjoy it and she'll never come.
There are several things I find sad about your situation. First, it sounds like you have no idea how to give yourself an orgasm, so you're not able to give the guy any feedback on what he should do to make you feel good. Second, it sounds like you and your guy believe the definition of sex is having his penis in your vagina, and you don't do any manual or oral messing around leading up to that or after that. Third, it sounds like the guy really doesn't give a shit that what the two of you are doing does nothing for you, but he wants to keep on doing it because he likes it.