Is it normal to not date men unless they meet my qualifications?

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I mean.. men do it all the time, men are SO picky.. so why can't I be?

I'm not even that picky, I just have a few things that a guy must do to be considered attractive. I couldn't ever fall in love with a guy who wears his pants below his ass, nor with a guy who doesn't know how to type properly. I'm not really being picky, I think that's a general thing everyone agrees on..

And I know many guys who may not like me for my hair color, or the fact that I'm short, or I wear glasses. Whatever.. and that's fine.

I just want to know if other women do this? And if it's normal to do so..

Also, if you're wondering what my "qualifications" are (that of which I'm not even really sure of yet, tbh):

Smart
Funny (but in a sort of sarcastic, dry way... someone with Martin Freeman or David Mitchell's humor)
Short men... but also sometimes tall men
Emotionally unattached (I can't stand clingy men)
Intellectually stimulating
Someone who can genuinely make me laugh

And that's it..

I don't really have any physical qualifications.. I find anyone from...

Richard Dawkins to Jack Lemmon to David Mitchell to my chiropractor attractive..

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  • Justsomejerk
    10 years ago

    I have to look at the keyboard while I type. Am I out?

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  • GuessWho
    10 years ago

    I think that's reasonable.

    I have a more strict list of qualifications for girls that I'd consider dating.

    We're all entitled to choice, and I'd rather be alone than be with someone who doesn't suite my taste.

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  • KaffeInjection
    10 years ago

    Don't know really.... Who cares.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I don't think one can be "considered" attractive, you either are to someone the moment they see you or you aren't. What people are attracted to varies greatly, but it's not something you can change or improve upon, only fake.

    I know people I hate in every way possible, but they're still attractive.

    You're just wasting your own time. You'll be dead as a can of spam sometime in the next few decades, being picky about anything is just limiting your experience and enjoyment before the big choke.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      On my cock!

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  • devil-in-skirt
    10 years ago

    i have list for wt my gf should like:
    -beautiful i mean i can see her extremely beautiful it is not abt a typical stranded
    -clever and i like the way she thinks
    -i feel extremely happy when i am with her and never get bored
    -i like to discuss things with her and i like her opinion
    - to like her style i mean the way she dress and make her hair
    - to feel peace with her NOT WAR !
    - to make me feel happy and just being with her can change my mood if iam not ok
    - she knows wt she is talking abt and not paradoxical person
    -she can't cheat and she can't have taking people when she is single and can't do other awful things that we all know it is awful
    -don't promise if she can't do
    -to do not lie i hate Liars :@
    -and to like her shape i don't have strict stranded
    -to trust her
    i don't know if there is more but i don't think i am picky !

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  • baronroderick
    10 years ago

    My personality/culture qualifications are higher than my physical appearance demands. I fell just like you. PS: I'm gay.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    10 years ago

    I don't see how someone's typing skill affects a relationship. If someone gave that to me as the reason for saying no I'd be annoyed from thinking I'd been lied to about the real issue. How would you feel if you met someone smart, funny, attractive and on the short side but they were slow and clumbsy at typing, would it still be a deal breaker?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Also, I love your screen name. Neutral Milk Hotel <3

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      • kingofcarrotflowers
        10 years ago

        oh sorry i see. yeah i get what you mean and have you heard that after 15 years neutral milk hotel are back for a tour. i couldn't believe it. if they don't come to the UK I'm going to fly to America to see them.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      That's not at all what I meant! I mean.. if someone is so lazy as to write out "Hey would you like to go on a date?" as "wanna go 2 da movies 2nite", it's just.. why not type out the whole thing? It's just silly.

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  • robbieforgotpw
    10 years ago

    You say you're short would you date a 4' man?

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    I actually think I fit your description pretty well... would you like to go on a date? Anyways, I think it's normal to have qualifications, we all have standards, some just more than others.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      OP here, haha. Well.. you may not want to date me after you've seen me, love.

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      • Anime7
        10 years ago

        I don't know if that was meant as in "I'm ugly so you probably wouldn't like me" or "I'm way too old for you." If it's the former, I think you're being too harsh on yourself. I've seen plenty of beautiful women who call themselves ugly, and it hurts a little because it's like I wish I could let them borrow my eyes so they could see themselves the way I do. Was that too creepy? If so that was not my intention. If it's cause of the latter, well... then perhaps I am or I'm not. I think that will be up to you to decide if I'm mature enough darling. ha

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  • ScooterNyne
    10 years ago

    This made me feel like a perfect candidate haha.

    short girls with glasses are incredibly cute so I don't think men will be picking you apart either. Exotic hair styles are also extremely sexy. But I feel like that might just be me lol.

    anyway standards are a good thing. It's a way of sifting through all the people you KNOW you wont get along with and finding the perfect someone much faster.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    10 years ago

    Yeah, it's called having standards and women who don't have standards generally don't do so well in the dating market.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I "went solo" to a picture of Ron Howard one time. It didn't feel great but I still finished.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    I don't think that's picky at all, I think that's just having preferences and everyone on Earth has them (apart from asexuals :P). Most people have a type which they are attracted to, and very few people would date someone they weren't attracted to. What would be the point? :P

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