Is it normal to not care that i'm a virgin?

I'm 19 and male. I've never done anything remotely sexual with anyone, or had a real girlfriend (just a "girlfriend" in middle school). I only find myself wishing I had a girl when I'm aroused, and then only sometimes. When I'm not aroused, It doesn't even cross my mind. When I think about it, I can't find a real reason to pursue a relationship. I don't want kids or marriage. Being a virgin doesn't bother me at all like it seems to bother others around my age.

I'm actually not looking for any advice on how to get over this. I just want to know if this is a normal thing or if I truly am a special little snowflake.

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Based on 243 votes (200 yes)
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Comments ( 27 )
  • Gullart

    That's the spirit. "I don't give a damn" is a wonderful lifestyle.

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    • betch_pleaseex39

      Haha, I agree

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  • normalmente

    I was virgin untill I was 19 and I didn't care about it...really!! I think tings happen when they have to happen..so don't worry about it!

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  • i dont think any one person by themself cares about virginity, but the pressure from other people makes them care about it

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  • truly

    My guess is, you're asexual. It's more normal than one would think. (And just because you get aroused sometimes doesn't mean you're not asexual)

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  • GoldenEcstasy23

    'House' | I couldn't agree more w/ that statement. :)

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  • IDiGAFi

    Normal, as in "usual"? Certainly not. You said it yourself:

    "...it seems to bother others around my age".

    However, I don't think there's anything wrong with that. The only problem about being a virgin is that maybe in time you'll meet someone who blows your mind away and really want to be with her, and having absolutely no experience whatsoever might be an obstacle.

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  • Schythl

    Dude, I'm exactly the same as you.

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  • ruralfrights

    Of course it bothers you or you wouldn't be posting a comment. It probably bothers you that it doesn't bother you. It's okay to be single. Some people are happily single their entire lives. Sounds, that your repressed sexually for some reason. When you see what you've missed, your labido will be a torpedo (didn't rhyme on purpose)

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  • kim1988

    It's normal. It just shows that you aren't just interested in what's in somebody's pants. That way you are more interested in what's in a girl's mind.

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  • kikilove_x

    congrats! you're normal.

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  • SomeRandomPerson

    Normal.

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  • bacaba

    do whatever you think is best for yourself

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  • Rssngrl

    can i have your number??
    you guys are perfect!!
    i find almost every guy hot but they think im ugly ``(. anywho dont worry every guy has that one girl,youl no from the start dont worry

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  • jjj5543

    same, except i wanna have kids 1 day buy i dont care that im a virgin

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  • Well I don't think it's normal, are you in anway insecure with your body or sexuality.

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  • House

    i think it's normal.I know that my classmates act like their in heat all the time, i swear they are just like animals!

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  • hotchickie81

    Good for you!

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  • BOYracer88

    thats not normal at all, find yourself a girl now before its too late, what if you meet one you realy like in a few years but u dont kno how to talk to/ treat/ fuck, it wont be good for u. btw sex is the most amazing thing in the universe and you sir are missing out :)

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    • LesterTheMolester

      You have emotional problems - seriously. You should sort yourself out. What make's it amazing? It's a simple fact, dumbfuck.

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  • Yeah its normal lol and so true gullart

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  • mtnw

    you are normal. people who have overactive sex drives indicate emotional problems to say the least. plus they think it's a badge of honor to be that way and that they are admired by everyone else, but i doubt that they are.

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  • sheeptrafficjam

    I think it's pretty good that you aren't beating yourself up about it, but on the flip side, if in the future you want to have a family and you don't have the social experience with girls, you might find it overly difficult to find someone to be with. Maybe you should try dating, at the very least to get some experience with it, and maybe you'll actually enjoy it.

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  • PoisonFlowers

    Snap. I'm like that too. It seems to really bother other people a lot, but after a while, I've come to realise that personally, I don't actually care.

    I only sort of cared when I was this kid in high school and everyone had had a ton of relationship experience already. Now, it's not a big deal anymore.

    So, you haven't attained special little snowflake status yet :P

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  • im 15 and im the same way

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    • IDiGAFi

      hahahahaha I can't believe how the crap they sell us on TV gets to people. We are made to believe that by the age of 15 you are already supposed to be an expert in sex. That's just old guys exaggerating the fact that a few kids that age are getting laid (just doing it, but most certainly NOT doing it right). Reality is that by the ages of 15, 16, and quite often 17, they are all still children.

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  • CookieMonster89

    have you ever thought you might be gay?

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