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I don't believe in monogamy. I am a woman. I don't mean that I will sleep with every 2nd person... just don't believe that there is "the one" and that you can only love them your whole life
It seems most with your beliefs change their mind when they do meet "the one", or at least someone they want to be with in a LTR.
For most of us, there are several "the ones" in life, that is true, but when we are with that one we should be faithful.
I have been with the same guy for 4 years now. It hasn't changed my mind yet
No. Just because I don't believe in it doesn't give me the excuse to go cheat. To me that is not how it works..
OK, now I'm confused. You are living by a set of values you do not believe in?
Not to be an ass or argumentative, but why hold onto beliefs you cannot (or will not) abide by?
I get where you are coming from. What I mean is that I don't believe that there is a perfect person for everyone and that you can love only that person. True monogamy is where 2 virgins marry and spend the rest of their living days together... and if one dies, the other won't remarry... I just don't believe that's the way it should work. I definitely love my current partner, but he's not the only person I am ever going to want to sleep with, or have feelings for, or want to get to know deeper etc. Obviously, I haven't acted out on ever wanting to sleep with other people, because I still have standards and morals and respect for my partner, just a different perspective on something in life.
Well, I don't believe in polygamy or just having multiple partners come and go. To me, there's either "The One" for you in life or romance is just not meant to be.
How do you expect to be able to please "The One" sexually or even understand women if you won't experience things with them? How will you even know that she is "The One" if you have nothing to compare her to?
Nobody has a natural talent to be a good lover and without practice, even with "The One", your wedding night will be just an unsatisfying, unenjoyable, fumbling disaster, for both of you.
Your attitude is cheating that person you marry of a wonderful, experienced and caring lover and a person who understands her and can please her, in and out of bed.
While I agree you learn a lot from experience and you will never find "the one" if you don't try, you can also waste time on many relationships that turn into relation-shits. Life is too short as it is and knowing that you've wasted time in fucked up relationships can be just as bad.
I don't think it matters how many women you have sex with or you've been with because not everyone actually finds "the one." In the big picture, the only thing that really matters is that you find "the one" regardless of how many partners you've had in the past.
At my age things are in a bit different perspective. I have found "the one" a few times over my life.
For whatever reasons, those relationships turned into your 'relationshifts' (great word, by the way) and we separated. In each case I was sure I'd found my 'soul mate' and the relationships were as great as one could hope for.
Well, I met my present 'the one' about 3.5 years ago and the most odd pairing you could ever imagine has become the best relationship I've ever had.
Each and every lover has been a wonderful experience and I wouldn't wish to have missed any one of them. Even the ones that didn't end well, were experiences I would not have wanted to miss. That's what life is all about, IMO.
I shall not go out of this world regretting the things I did not do.
I was ready to tear you a new one, but a appreciate your perspective. Good on ya for surprising me.
You probably feel that way because you haven't actually found "the one." When you find "the one" you will know because you truly won't want to be with anyone else.
So there's absolutely no way in the whole wide world that humans can be wired different and have different preferences at all?? I didn't ask the question for someone to come change my mind. I believe in what I believe.
I was offering you my own perspective as to why you might feel this way because it's beyond my understanding why someone would want to be with anyone else when they've found "the one."
I don't agree with it, but I never said I didn't respect your viewpoint. Hell, believe whatever you wanna believe in. In fact, I would encourage you to do so. It's your life so live it however you see fit. Who am I to look at you any differently?