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I am just curious about what everyone thinks of as cheating.... Is cuddling with someone else cheating? Or do you have to kiss? Or have sex? Where do you draw the line.. And is it normal to not be sure?
Cheating is anything that you wouldn't openly tell your BF/Husband about because you think it would make him angry.
Cheating is doing anything romantic,emotionally or sexually with someone who is not your man/woman...but then again maybe im just old fashion.
I don't think there is a universal law of cheating: it strictly depends on what you and your partner have established is exclusive behavior between you two. For some couples cuddling with a friend is cheating, for others is kisses and sex, for others is sharing your intimate secrets with someone other than your partner, and for some sex and making out is not cheating as long as it's just booty calls with no deeper feelings involved; for others is only cheating if you keep it a secret. It is not a straight line. You should probably discuss about it with your partner to find out what cheating is for you.
It completely depends on the arrangement set by the couple. Some people are okay with friendly cuddles and shit like that, gods know it happens in my friends group all the time. For some couples anything is cheating (you wouldn't believe the number of people who won't even let their SO hang out alone with the opposite sex without thinking of it as cheating) and for some, nothing is cheating (ie. open relationship).
Most people enter into a relationship without discussing these things and just assuming that everyone has the same standards that they do. I think this is important stuff to talk about when entering into a new relationship because misunderstandings can happen, and if you don't talk about it you won't know how your SO feels about it, and might make a mistake and hurt them without meaning to.
There are a lot of meanings for the word 'cheating'. One person may say that casual sex is acceptable if there was no feeling involved. Others may argue that anything involving a sexual activity is called cheating. Some may even say it is not cheating as long as each of the spouses is honest with the other about the act.
If it was just about sexual activity, could people act without using their feelings? If "cheating" was all about feelings, would love a pet, say a dog, be cheating too? If honesty was all that mattered, wouldn't one feel the pain when s/he was being cheated on?
What defines cheating?
Anything you feel guilty of. It's different for everyone, and don't let anyone tell you different. That's their opinion, fuck them. Ask your other what THEY consider cheating and make your boundaries clear.
It's when you're playing monopoly with your partner and you keep taking money from the bank when they're not looking
Cheating is acting like you love someone else when you already have a boyfriend/girlfriend.
So kissing someone, having sex with them, masturbating someone, having oral sex, being too close and hugging them in a sexual way, rubbing or touching in a sexual manner, licking or kissing their body, etc. I'm sure you get the picture.
I feel for you.....are you cuddling because he/she won't? we are desperate for human touch. I say no...but it could and probaly will lead to more.
I think anything sexual is. A friendly kiss on the cheek of course isn't , but "proper" kissing /touching or anything sexual is, in my mind. Also stuff like webcamming sexually with someone is cheating too. If it puts your relationship in jeopardy it's cheating.