Is it normal to not be sure to love your family?

Basically: When I was very young I was raped;nobody believe me when I told them at 15; I became out of control and depressed(cutting myself, drinking, partying, not going to school etc)things became better in my family. I went to a children's mental hospital for them to finally listen to me correctly. But now it seems like things are going back to the way they were when I was younger. I finished school but Im stuck at home; I cant find a job, and Im becoming depressed again. Im trying to go to school but of course no money, no applications. My mother has something wrong with my SSi and I cant apply to schools proper anyways. And she makes too much money to get fee waviers. I feel as though she's keeping me back from doing things. Im only 17 years old and I even thought about stripping or going to the navy to get out of this mess. Im not sure if this is normal to even hate my family the way I hate them, but then again depressed because they need me to help them with money problems. any advice too

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  • steph19913

    I'm going to the navy :)

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  • jessmartian

    I feel similarly about my family. I can't really count on my mom for much and it seems like I have to do everything myself. I actually think joining the navy is a good idea. It will take you out of that situation and get your mind off of it all while giving you time to calm down and not have to worry about it. Plus when you get out, you'll have the money to go to any college you want.

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  • sleepingowl

    Yes. I always thought loving your family was an obligation. One that I don't follow. I can't love people I hardly know and am forced to talk to during holidays. Real love comes only from the person you love / marry / whatever, and your friends (not in a "in love" way though). Family is just a term for the people who are related to you, evolution made it so parents stick with their children in humans... love probably occurred because they had an obligation to take care of their children & love was that "feeling" that made them want to stick around. JUST SAYING.

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  • itstoolate3

    Sounds pretty crappy but stripping is last resort and don't join the military just to get away. also if you can't apply to colleges because of info then you can't fill out forms for the navy. But if you end up wanting to join do go navy my old recruiter said girls are all they want at the moment

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  • ladyday

    don't strip, it's really degrading. sell weed instead :) you'll be helping people and it's easy money

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