Is it normal to not be sure if i'm in a mentally abusive relationship?

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Lately I've been noticing little signs that could be seen as abusive, but I'm thinking that maybe I'm just over reacting. he gets jealous and insecure when I talk to other men, he always plays the victim when we have an argument, I keep defending him when others say something about him. My friend who was in an abusive relationship even mentioned that she thinks I am in one and to watch for the warning signs. Is this the start of an abusive relationship or am I overreacting ?

Is the way that he acts normal?

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    Talk to him. If he starts an arguement, gets defensive or just becomes an ass in general, he is abusive. If he seems genuinely understanding, at least to some degree, then probs not abusive.

    Also, how often do you argue? Because if its, like, every day, there ain't mich point staying together either way.

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  • DO4BO
    12 years ago

    It is normal to be questioning that. Your explanation online doesn't give me enough insight, but it would be more visible to people around you. If your friends are questioning that, it is normal that you question it as well. Whether it is true or not.

    However, I hope you are not. -- If you are, I hope you realize and get out of it.

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  • gerardforever
    9 years ago

    My last relationship was a lot like this. Being that your friend pointed it out, it might be, because sometimes you need a different perspective. It's good that you defend him, but he does need to be independent and see that you are your own person too.

    I would also say to talk to him about it, and if he doesn't even try to understand , then you should leave him and wait to find the right person who will care about your feelings more.

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