Is it normal to not be over your first love?

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Truth is, I know it's commons for people to not yet be over their first love. I just needed a caption but honestly it's been 9 months and I haven't been over my ex boyfriend who was my first everything. The sad part is we were together for only 8 months.. But they were incredible. The thing is.. He was in school in another state five hours away and we thought we could handle a long distance relationship. I was honestly scared because I was still in high school and he was attending college as a freshman. I was afraid he'd want better which caused me to be insecure. Th relationship don't work out but every break he had he came back in town and we eventually got back together but everytime he went back we broke up. It was a pattern and I realized he was just using me. We broke up but instead of getting back together when he came down we'd hang out which lead to other things. Things I thought were okay to do since he still loved me. Come to find out he slept with other girls as well.. And just a few weeks ago he told me he cheated on me while in school.. Need I mention it's been nine months. Nine months of me not knowing this. I do still love him so we hung out and it was just like old times but the way he held me and kissed me is the same way he holds and kiss other girls but I thought it was okay because he felt the same as me. Well last night he told me he didn't love me anymore.. I can't keep letting him hurt me and take advantage of me. I want to give everything he gave me back to him and I also want to confront him.. I don't know, I know I have to move on. I also thought I'd mention that he is in town for the summer, three months but I leave next month way across the states for college so a part of me wants to enjoy summer not avoiding him because I can't deny the fact that when we hangout it's amazing.. Should I be his friend for the summer? Go with the flow? Help.. :/

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  • the_misty_haze
    11 years ago

    First off you would not be his "friend" for the summer you would be his slut for the summer. I mean no offense at this. But its what he obviously sees you as. He is taking advantage of you. Using your feelings against you so he is able to have the best of both worlds. Im sorry but this guy does not care for you. He would not cheat on you and then bounce you around depending on where he is. Now he doesn't even pretend to be your boyfriend you justyo hang out and it leads to things. Too easy for him! Now he doesn't even have to pretend at a commitment. So to answer your question should you be around him this summer? It depends..are you OK with the fact when college resumes he will more then likely go off again screwing other girls? If you are cool with this then go ahead. Just don't fool yourself into thinking he loves or respects you. He's been sadly obvious he doesn't. Im really sorry he's treating you like this truly. You seem like a sweet girl. But a little naive. But then again so was I at your age.

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    • robbieboo
      11 years ago

      Yeah your right.. I am very naive and all those things are true but what should I do about the things he gave me? And should I confront him about it?

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      • the_misty_haze
        11 years ago

        Did I miss a part? The things he gave you? I hope we ain't talking STDs?

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        • robbieboo
          11 years ago

          No, like gifts he gave me. I dont want them

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          • the_misty_haze
            11 years ago

            Oh thank god lol. Id just toss them. Or if there are any valuable ones hock them at a pawn shop.

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  • FionnaCakeFan
    9 years ago

    Yes... IT'S NORMAL! *sob sob* I liked mine for five years! Finally! *sob* I have met my people!

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    • FionnaCakeFan
      9 years ago

      He likes me back but hasn't told me. His friend told my friend.

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  • Dilloncole2
    11 years ago

    i see what you mean that does sound like a good plan or atleast call his parents and ask them to tell him you needed to speak with him and let him know what your doing and explain your reason:)

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    • robbieboo
      11 years ago

      Yeah I can do that but I just don't want them to feel that I have them in the middle of things you know? That's the last thing I want and I actually talk to his mom and his older sisters about him but they don't about his cheating situation.. I don't think I want them to know. I'll just leave everything at his door and if he wants to talk then we will talk but the thing is.. Since I am so close to his family they would want to say goodbye to me before I leave which is in a month and I don't want to see him my whole summer. How am I supposed to act if I see him?

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      • Dilloncole2
        11 years ago

        I see what you mean about the parents but if yall are that close then i think they would understand and im sure they do. But about the what you should do if you see him id say you got two choices avoid him or just smile and keep walking so he knows that your not interested in him anymore, and that you have moved on to bigger and better things:))

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        • robbieboo
          11 years ago

          Yeah your right. He had just recently texted me saying "thanks for bringing the stuff! Lol my mom kept the pictures and I gave my nieces the sweaters" it's like he didn't care you know.. He told me he hasn't read the letter yet but he kept the stuffed animal he gave me.

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          • Dilloncole2
            11 years ago

            Yeah i know what you mean, and he will read the letter curiosity will get to him i know. Just don't let him talk you into something cause its allll games!

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  • snafu
    11 years ago

    people who don't treat you well do not deserve to be a friend simple!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • Dilloncole2
    11 years ago

    You probably should probably give them back in person im a guy and thats what id want and might give you some time to explain how you feel about his tricks that hes been playing with you.

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    • robbieboo
      11 years ago

      Yeah, that's what I want but you see.. I texted him telling him that I have something to give him and I never got a response. I think I should mention that I am really close to his family as well.. Since I didn't get a response I was thinking about just leaving the stuff in front of his house because they are going camping and also leaving a letter. I don't know, I feel like I should confront him but he hasn't text me back..

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  • ruchi
    11 years ago

    Btw if you see him again, don't fall into his trap again.... Be stern but really there's someone else out there

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    • robbieboo
      11 years ago

      Thank you.. im thinking about giving him his gifts back but i dont know if i should leave it at his door step or take it to him and confront him.

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  • ruchi
    11 years ago

    No matter how good the times are that you have with him, it's obvious he is cunning and sly and lying.. Stop wasting time with that boy after what he did to you and find someone else... Theres not only one boy in the world, good luck :)

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