Is it normal to not be interested in sex?

I am a 21 year old guy in college and virgin. I feel like a big loser. Although I am social and I have lots of friends but not a girlfriend and that makes me feel lonely. It just hasn't happened for whatever reason. I haven't even kissed a girl or hold her hands. I have been called an entertaining person, smart, charming, whatever, but somehow I can never get a girl to be interested in me and want to spend time with me. I see pretty girls every day and it hurts that I can't even have one. I have watched porn before but I feel that sex is secondary to having an emotional connection and there are other ways to express physical intimacy. I want to play video games with her and read a book with her head on my chest and me asking if she's done with this page and when to turn to the next page. I want to experience a girl talking honestly with me and feeling like she can trust me and that she can share anything with me without thinking twice. I want to appreciate how her mind works and her little quirks that set her apart from everyone else. I want to see genuine happiness and surprise in her face when I give her a nice surprise and always give her a shoulder to lean on. Just little romantic things like that might seem so small but they are so important to me and are so much better than sex.